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BeatRice
06-18-2006, 03:56 PM
I have a b/f. But he is so boring. I have 3 years a relationship with him. He just go to sportschool and went he back home he just behind his desk.
To have fun in relationship I tried:
to buy a present but he says: "I don't like it, go back and save your money for important things",
O_o
rent a movie or bought tickets for the cinema but he says: "Oh, I can download this movie" but really he don't watching movies so he forgotten and when I play the movie he fell insleep like in the cinema too.
O_o
to cook for him, but he never eat my food. He says: you like Akane of Ranma. He says: "Hon, I like your food but I'm really full" and then the food stays in the fridge forever till it's rotten. And then he bought the same kinda food in a microwave form.
O_o
to counterstrike, he said: "Battlefield is so much fun, cs is old and boring" When I played cs, died and win in the game and seems that I have fun. He start to say: "I can do better than you, you really suck!"
O_o
to buy cloth, but he hate the combination and he brings the cloth back and buy other cloth. The cloth I really dislike and hate.\
Please help...
Gypsyfly PMS
06-18-2006, 04:05 PM
Hmmm, looks like you have nothing in common. If you ever did before, from what I'm reading, it's really different now. You should have a serious talk with him and let him know you don't appreciate the way he ignores you, your opinions, and all the kind things you try to do.
If he doesn't want to listen, let the last words you speak to him be good bye and good riddance.
You sound like an awesome lady and you deserve better, don't settle!
IOperation ivyI
06-18-2006, 04:06 PM
well if i did all that for my girlfriend and nothing helped and i was bored with her id probubly leave her but since you have been with him for 3 years that would probubly be kinda hard
KilloWertz
06-18-2006, 04:13 PM
I agree with Gypsy. If he doesn't want to have a talk with you, then it's his loss. How he is treating you isn't how someone should treat their girlfriend, especially since you've been together for so long.
Kelpie PMS
06-18-2006, 04:15 PM
I agree with Gyspy. Talk to him about how you feel and if he continues to ignore you then you deserve better.
BeatRice
06-18-2006, 04:26 PM
Yeah the way he treat me isn't how he treat a girlfriend. The prob is he never had a g/f before. I feel a bit guilty what I said, so I'm going to say the positive things:
Ermm... I'm thinking.
He can cook, he clean the house hmm...
He said I'm a bit lazy. I don't sport but only play videogames and martial arts is too dangerous for me. Meh. I feel also guilty about it but... to iron your cloth and put the cloth with care in the closet is just a waste of time! I mean omg... I mean we have a discussion to make the dishes clean. He clean the plates second times and I do one time. And and he said I need to loose 10 pounds. Omg I'm 5"7 and my weight is 55 kg.
Look Its a Panda
06-18-2006, 04:29 PM
He pretty much sounds like a prick, and I'm having (judged from what you've said here) a hard time understanding how you managed to stay together for three years.
But if you think that this relationship might have a future, I would actually try and talk to him about this, confront him and have him answer for his actions.
Have he been like this all the time, or just recently? If he's been like this from the start, it's weird that you've stayed together for three whole years.
Just the "I can do better than you, you really suck!" comment is probably good enough reason to give him a swift kick to the nads.
CiniMini
06-18-2006, 04:34 PM
Yea...My bf just dumped me in the nicest way ever...He was like it's over bi*ch and I started laughing...So yea...I really don't know what you could do...Sorry bout that...Hope everything gets better
Love Always
JEN
BeatRice
06-18-2006, 04:43 PM
Hey gangsta panda,
This hasn't been in the first year. But we didn't see each other often. I worked in the morning and he in the evening. And when we a day off we goin to the city and shopping, the nice things. We had a car and driving to nice places. But now we study both, it's a bit frustrating. We spend our money for school and make a good career. But when does the time come? The fun and stuff again? When we both work I guess... I work too and I like to do nice things but all he said I need to spend money for school/career. -_-; When does he found out what the meaning is of the relationship? It's like he is more a schoolbuddy or something. he helps me alot with school. But when is the moment of the fun things, like to go out, watching soccer, erm :(
Markotics
06-18-2006, 04:44 PM
I have a b/f. But he is so boring. I have 3 years a relationship with him. He just go to sportschool and went he back home he just behind his desk.
To have fun in relationship I tried:
to buy a present but he says: "I don't like it, go back and save your money for important things",
O_o
rent a movie or bought tickets for the cinema but he says: "Oh, I can download this movie" but really he don't watching movies so he forgotten and when I play the movie he fell insleep like in the cinema too.
O_o
to cook for him, but he never eat my food. He says: you like Akane of Ranma. He says: "Hon, I like your food but I'm really full" and then the food stays in the fridge forever till it's rotten. And then he bought the same kinda food in a microwave form.
O_o
to counterstrike, he said: "Battlefield is so much fun, cs is old and boring" When I played cs, died and win in the game and seems that I have fun. He start to say: "I can do better than you, you really suck!"
O_o
to buy cloth, but he hate the combination and he brings the cloth back and buy other cloth. The cloth I really dislike and hate.\
Please help...
um he is treating you like a mat...... you are being good to submit to him but don't take that rot... he obviously isn't showing you that he loves you or even if he loves you. he isn't treating you with care and making you feel loved....
but on the flipside... he could be under ALOT of stress that he doesn't want to talk about or express or maybe something making not feel good... us guys are very emotionly uncommunicative and we hold in hurtful feeling and don't let go of them properly and they grow and grow and can influence the way we act/behave or react to people we love........
so if there is a problem.... but do it in a caring way because if there is a problem its gona be like taking a bullet from a brain and you are the surgeon... to harsh, rough you will make the damage worse and harder to resolve....too apathic and the problem stays... so in a caring way (which is ironic to the way he is behaving and treating you.... but as someone has said before .. if everyone took eye for an eye the world would go blind)
But if there isn't a problem or the way he treats you gets worse just have some distance don't go out looking for someone else... but have some distance.. spend more time with your other friends...
another method is when he does something to disrespect you or you feel hurt just tell him eg." i am feeling hurt bcs you said i am crap" or "i am feeling hurt and sad bcs i wanna cook for you and look after you, but you don't let me do things for you. its my way of saying i love you but you throw it back in my face and i feel very rejected and hurt"
but if he keeps on disrespecting you well i think you know what to do....
BUT LISTEN WELL!!!!
to buy a present but he says: "I don't like it, go back and save your money for important things",
O_o
rent a movie or bought tickets for the cinema but he says: "Oh, I can download this movie" but really he don't watching movies so he forgotten and when I play the movie he fell insleep like in the cinema too.
to buy cloth, but he hate the combination and he brings the cloth back and buy other cloth. The cloth I really dislike and hate.\
these things in orange are normal in a relationship... not saying they are nessesarily good or bad... these examples show that you and him are to unique and very different people... which is healthy in a relationship.
Guys think in different ways to girls..... usually guys think more quick,lazy, practical sort if way. eg. going to do the grocery shopping with a wufe or g/f is romantic BCS they are spending time with someone they love... not somewhere which perfect settings.. just an everyday apsect... they aren't concerned for where they are but who they are with...<<< note that down well girls
girls think (i will be off bcs i'm a guy) of the detail in things such as how well things turn out... if your get somewhere on time or not... if the colour on the wall matches the lounge.... if they go to a cinema for a 'romantic' aspect... (have you ever thought that it could be romantic just you and him at home watching it on a dvd... it may not be the movies but it will be just you and him and not other people with you. thats romantic right? :) ).... girls think more detail than guys... which isn't bad or good.. its just different.
the thing with the different cloths... he didn't like the other colours, but you didn't tell him you don't like those colours and yes the colours do matter to YOU... communication is very very essential in a relationship... give a guy silent treatment and thats when he shuts off from you from him being hurt and that he doesn't understand what is wrong unless you tell him literally......<<< not that well down ...its no use in using body language or cry or use emotion only... if you want to get a message accross talk to him with literal conversation and the message through conversation only... its the best way at it... like i said before guys think quick,simple,lazy,conventional/practical and girls think in detail eg emotional langauge, body langauge, etc im not saying that guys cannot read your body language.. i'm saying you can't go wrong if you speak to him with literal simple cinversation...i know that sounds wierd but hey we are guys :P...
to counterstrike, he said: "Battlefield is so much fun, cs is old and boring" When I played cs, died and win in the game and seems that I have fun. He start to say: "I can do better than you, you really suck!"
that a guy to guy thing.. when too good male friends have a good at each other.. its a sign of friendship... but he may not realise that you are offended by that... and that the way he can have a friendship with guys is different in the way he can with you.. a women... just a male/female misunderstanding... you need to express clearly and simply AT THE TIME OF WHEN IT HAPPENS (that can be very important so he knows what he has done wrong and easily remembers what he did...) that what he said hurt you very much.
to cook for him, but he never eat my food. He says: you like Akane of Ranma. He says: "Hon, I like your food but I'm really full" and then the food stays in the fridge forever till it's rotten. And then he bought the same kinda food in a microwave form.
thats the males lazy, simple thinking missunderstanding if what you just did for him :) when he is hungry ask him if he would like you to cook him something... he has given you a complement.. that "he likes your food" but "he is really full" when it satys in the fridge... its prolly gona stay there bcs its the male lazy thinking.
i hope any of that may help you somewhat
Markotics
06-18-2006, 04:46 PM
:o oh sorry that took me well nearly a whole hour to write, sorry for it being late:o
Gypsyfly PMS
06-18-2006, 04:46 PM
Look, my fiancé, Darren(Dac on the forums) cleans dishes, cleans the room, cooks for me, listens too me, we have the best conversations, he never ignores me, and god help me if he ever comments on my weight(which he never does). And what he does say; is even when I get up in the morning and my hair is a mess, he still thinks I'm pretty. He supports my work in PMS 110%, and even more important he supports me. He's under stress many times as well, from family, work, money issues, even me...but he stills has time for me and continues to love me.
He's never asked for a thank you or for sympathy in anything. You know why? Because he's a MAN, he doesn't need any kind of affirmation of his support and love of me. Because when you truly love someone, you do things like that for each other because you truly care about someone more than you do yourself...that's what love is.
And that's what I think your guy hasn't learned yet. If you really value the year's you've put into this relationship I think both of you need to step away from each other for a while and reconsider where you're going to be 1 year from now, 5 years from now, so on.
If you don't see anything a few year's from now, that's telling you something.
And don't let him guilt you into anything, no one in a loving relationship should ever use guilt to turn to their favor...things don't work that way.
Seriously, start thinking about spending sometime away from each other, if he even "allows" that. I hope he's not super controlling too...
BeatRice
06-18-2006, 04:58 PM
Hmmm, I think is better (and I learn from you guys). To do other things. Go to friends and family. Well to be honest. He doesn't have any friends except me :( I have alot of friends but I feel guilty to left him. This weekend I was actually to go to my parents. But I stayed because he feel kinda lonely. But this weekend, we only have a nice walk in the city, that was nice but ermm, why i still I feel; boring. I suppose to watch with my best friend soccer (my tv is broken) but my b/f doesn't like soccer so I must agree with him. (i need to agree always with him what he says :S )
He dunno if he finish school he might be in stress. Maybe that's why he's acting that way. When I ask "how's your school?" he says: dunt want to talk bout it.
Markotics
06-18-2006, 04:59 PM
Look, my fiancé, Darren(Dac on the forums) cleans dishes, cleans the room, cooks for me, listens too me, we have the best conversations, he never ignores me, and god help me if he ever comments on my weight(which he never does). And what he does say; is even when I get up in the morning and my hair is a mess, he still thinks I'm pretty. He supports my work in PMS 110%, and even more important he supports me. He's under stress many times as well, from family, work, money issues, even me...but he stills has time for me and continues to love me.
He's never asked for a thank you or for sympathy in anything. You know why? Because he's a MAN, he doesn't need any kind of affirmation of his support and love of me. Because when you truly love someone, you do things like that for each other because you truly care about someone more than you do yourself...that's what love is.
And that's what I think your guy hasn't learned yet. If you really value the year's you've put into this relationship I think both of you need to step away from each other for a while and reconsider where you're going to be 1 year from now, 5 years from now, so on.
If you don't see anything a few year's from now, that's telling you something.
And don't let him guilt you into anything, no one in a loving relationship should ever use guilt to turn to their favor...things don't work that way.
Seriously, start thinking about spending sometime away from each other, if he even "allows" that. I hope he's not super controlling too...
sorry not to be rude but i disagree strongly with He's never asked for a thank you or for sympathy in anything. You know why? Because he's a MAN, he doesn't need any kind of affirmation of his support and love of me. Because when you truly love someone, you do things like that for each other because you truly care about someone more than you do yourself...that's what love is.
whish is a very common missunderstanding amoung women.... guys need your love AND your support... we have very fragile ego's to be deadly honest... and we desire to be loved and feel supported by our wifes/ g/f's. i'm not saying that he shouldn't support you... he is expressing his love for you through what you are doing in PMS and caring for you helping you... supporting you... us guys are the other way around.. we need girls to tell us through words and that they support us and love us... we are a wierd species us males :P
but i'm saying guys can get their ego and self worth run into the ground and if their wifes/ g/f's don't show them/tell them that they love them or support them and they are not alone in this world... words from a wife/ g/f mouth have very powerful actions on her husband/ b/f life... bad or good..... and i am being very very serious.. we may not ask for you to tell u love us bcs we want it to be from you girls and not through us having to ask for it. we are very unexpressive people (us guys) through speech and conversation with our deep emotions
ok i hope you can see i'm only trying to help
P.S> tell him now and then and even just randomly that your really love him and mean it.. watch for his reaction.. it may likely be modest(eg. you don't have to tell me that or,etc... its like i said before 'a guy is very uncmmunicative with his deepemotions..' but also understanding that us guys find it hard to express ourselves and most of the time in timdiness of showing deep emotion 'stuff it up' and what comes out can most likely be interpretted by a girl differently.. but that expected coming from a guy...
Markotics
06-18-2006, 05:04 PM
I suppose to watch with my best friend soccer (my tv is broken) but my b/f doesn't like soccer so I must agree with him. (i need to agree always with him what he says :S )
you do not have to agreee with him... its is healthy for you to disagree but not fight.. as a saying goes "opposites attract" well knowing that both of you are different but not forcing your own differences on the other person is good.
He dunno if he finish school he might be in stress. Maybe that's why he's acting that way. When I ask "how's your school?" he says: dunt want to talk bout it.
well yep if he doesn't wanna talk about it.. he is definately stressed about school and doesn't want to talk about it bcs that would reinvolved him in that stress.. it takes time and alot of love to trust your spose... a relationship gets so much better over time..
N0M4D
06-18-2006, 05:53 PM
I'd NEVER treat someone I loved that way. That's terrible......Well if you need another option, I'm single! hehe...sorry just trying to cheer you up. :D
Gypsyfly PMS
06-18-2006, 06:07 PM
whish is a very common missunderstanding amoung women.... guys need your love AND your support... we have very fragile ego's to be deadly honest... and we desire to be loved and feel supported by our wifes/ g/f's. i'm not saying that he shouldn't support you... he is expressing his love for you through what you are doing in PMS and caring for you helping you... supporting you... us guys are the other way around.. we need girls to tell us through words and that they support us and love us... we are a wierd species us males :P
I'm not saying that I don't tell him I love and support him. I do everyday. We have one of those soul mate things going that anytime we walk out of a door, we tell each other we love one another. Trust me, he KNOWS I appreciate him.
It's funny, I'm listening to Prince's song "I would Die 4 U" which is exactly how I feel about him.
Chemical Pink
06-18-2006, 06:10 PM
yeah you should talk to him. I mean I just found out my boyfriend was cheating on me today! :( wow, anyways just keep your head up! But make sure you have a serious talk with him. :)
Punkie
06-18-2006, 06:11 PM
talk to him and if he doesnt wanna listen or says but i want it my way kick him to the highway. lol
Olofguard
06-18-2006, 06:37 PM
I wish I could have read some of this advice about three weeks ago... I may not have ended up in the boat I am in now... haha
The words here are all very true.... I can't really add anything to it... they have put it just right...
Kakerotto
06-19-2006, 12:10 AM
everything's been said already, only thing i can add is to give him some space.
There really are times when a guy really needs space, being too clingy sometimes makes some guys "choke". You dont necessarily have to be at the fore front of everything concerning him. You can still be supportive from the sidelines.
I'm not surprised in the least, 99% of women do this to themselves. You don't need help, you need a wakeup call. Get rid of him and consciously decide to settle only for someone that treats you right.
']sorry not to be rude but i disagree strongly with
whish is a very common missunderstanding amoung women.... guys need your love AND your support... we have very fragile ego's to be deadly honest... and we desire to be loved and feel supported by our wifes/ g/f's. i'm not saying that he shouldn't support you... he is expressing his love for you through what you are doing in PMS and caring for you helping you... supporting you... us guys are the other way around.. we need girls to tell us through words and that they support us and love us... we are a wierd species us males :P
but i'm saying guys can get their ego and self worth run into the ground and if their wifes/ g/f's don't show them/tell them that they love them or support them and they are not alone in this world... words from a wife/ g/f mouth have very powerful actions on her husband/ b/f life... bad or good..... and i am being very very serious.. we may not ask for you to tell u love us bcs we want it to be from you girls and not through us having to ask for it. we are very unexpressive people (us guys) through speech and conversation with our deep emotions
ok i hope you can see i'm only trying to help
P.S> tell him now and then and even just randomly that your really love him and mean it.. watch for his reaction.. it may likely be modest(eg. you don't have to tell me that or,etc... its like i said before 'a guy is very uncmmunicative with his deepemotions..' but also understanding that us guys find it hard to express ourselves and most of the time in timdiness of showing deep emotion 'stuff it up' and what comes out can most likely be interpretted by a girl differently.. but that expected coming from a guy...If you need someone else to validate you, that's a problem. I don't agree with guys needing validation, if you're a mentally and emotionally healthy, strong, and independent confident person, you know that what everyone else thinks doesn't matter, not even your girlfriend/wife. There's absolutely nothing wrong with TLC and expressing love, but you shouldn't NEED it, t hat's unhealthy IMO. To me love is about being with someone that cares about you, but doesn't obsess over you. Someone that shares your interests and is fun to be around and do things with. :)
Markotics
06-19-2006, 02:40 AM
we tell each other we love one another. Trust me, he KNOWS I appreciate him
yeh but he will only know if you tell him :) ok . being married mean sharing your life for the rest of your life.. you and him show each other love and support and build up and care for each other
yeah you should talk to him. I mean I just found out my boyfriend was cheating on me today! wow, anyways just keep your head up! But make sure you have a serious talk with him.
I'm very sorry to hear that chemical pink :( i was there was some way i could take away some of that hurt :(
If you need someone else to validate you, that's a problem. I don't agree with guys needing validation, if you're a mentally and emotionally healthy, strong, and independent confident person, you know that what everyone else thinks doesn't matter, not even your girlfriend/wife. There's absolutely nothing wrong with TLC and expressing love, but you shouldn't NEED it, t hat's unhealthy IMO. To me love is about being with someone that cares about you, but doesn't obsess over you. Someone that shares your interests and is fun to be around and do things with.
no you are wrong... if you want a good QUALITY and LONG TERM relationship... you NEED to tell your spouse you love them. IT IS IMPORTANT THAT YOU DO!!! I'm not yelling but highlighting the important bits.
a guy is like a car... your words are what kinda fuel you put into him.. if you put nothing into him... he will eventually be drained... if you put the wrong fuel into him (bad words like i hate you and you are pathetic and i have never loved you... etc) he will turn against you and quickly feel drained and not loved
BUT if you put the premium fuel into him (words of encouragement and love) he will perform beyond your expectations :) and he will show you love, caring and that protectiveness (not the one where he 'puts you in a cage' so you can't do anything but where you feel safe when he is around) that you desire for him to give you...
i repeat and urge you to try to understand... men and women are different and have been since creation..... if one person in a relationship is doing bad... it effects their spouse.. thats what is means by 'one flesh' in the bible... but sometimes when you have a abusive spouse you have to leave them... but not get devoiced because Jesus said the only way he will not see devoice as sin if you devoice your spouse if they have committed adultry... or basically cheated on you
ok.. if you don't believe me... try it your self girls... use words to build up your man and come back in a month and tell me the change... but do not let them abuse you or your love.. its a 2 way stream... BUT it doesn't mean if they do something bad that you do something in retaliation.. we are adults not children ok...
"if everyone took an eye for an eye the whole world would be blind.." (compliments ganstapanda)
sorry about spelling and grammar mistakes.. i am tired with a headache.
Gypsyfly PMS
06-19-2006, 02:56 AM
Lol, Markotics...I DO tell him. All the time, we write stupid little love notes to each other like we're in middle school saying I love you and so on, that's why he know's I love him.
Anyway, Beat, it sounds like you really love him, and the more you talk about him, it sounds like he cares about you too. But he maybe under stress, which leads to his disinterest in everything around him, including you. Which in return, makes you bored and you start to lose interest in your relationship too. You guy's have had a serious breakdown in communication and need to have a loooong conversation about what's really going on him him. Is it stress from school, is he too lazy to work on the relationship, or is it something else?
Markotics
06-19-2006, 02:58 AM
Lol, Markotics...I DO tell him. All the time, we write stupid little love notes to each other like we're in middle school saying I love you and so on, that's why he know's I love him.
well thats good :P
You guy's have had a serious breakdown in communication and need to have a loooong conversation about what's really going on him him
:o :o:p but yes i agree if i was in a relationship i would :) bcs of the education through diff types of media on relationships i have viewed
]no you are wrong... if you want a good QUALITY and LONG TERM relationship... you NEED to tell your spouse you love them. IT IS IMPORTANT THAT YOU DO!!! I'm not yelling but highlighting the important bits.
a guy is like a car... your words are what kinda fuel you put into him.. if you put nothing into him... he will eventually be drained... if you put the wrong fuel into him (bad words like i hate you and you are pathetic and i have never loved you... etc) he will turn against you and quickly feel drained and not loved
BUT if you put the premium fuel into him (words of encouragement and love) he will perform beyond your expectations :) and he will show you love, caring and that protectiveness (not the one where he 'puts you in a cage' so you can't do anything but where you feel safe when he is around) that you desire for him to give you...
i repeat and urge you to try to understand... men and women are different and have been since creation..... if one person in a relationship is doing bad... it effects their spouse.. thats what is means by 'one flesh' in the bible... but sometimes when you have a abusive spouse you have to leave them... but not get devoiced because Jesus said the only way he will not see devoice as sin if you devoice your spouse if they have committed adultry... or basically cheated on you
ok.. if you don't believe me... try it your self girls... use words to build up your man and come back in a month and tell me the change... but do not let them abuse you or your love.. its a 2 way stream... BUT it doesn't mean if they do something bad that you do something in retaliation.. we are adults not children ok...
"if everyone took an eye for an eye the whole world would be blind.." (compliments ganstapanda)
sorry about spelling and grammar mistakes.. i am tired with a headache.
I've learned a great deal about human relationships, social interactions in recent months. Mainly male-female relationships, the way men and women think, feel, etc. I understand very well. I reiterate that theres nothing wrong with telling the person you love them, but you seem to be placing it on a grand pedestal and making it out to be some idealistic fairy tale. You have to be independent from the good (and bad) opinion of others, you can not make someone else for responsible for your happiness. If thats how the relationship is, eventually one person is going to become too needy for the other, and they will resent that pressure of being responsible for their happiness. Which then both will become unhappy and the relationship will begin its downward spiral
H2o sLacK
06-20-2006, 01:47 AM
what a idiot.........
Miss_Insanio
06-20-2006, 02:17 AM
Well, me personally cud never be with sumone i thought was boring :o i'm miss energy herself :D but i don't know you personally, in real life kind of thing... All i know is no matter what everyone says in here, the decision is urs to make...
Markotics
06-20-2006, 03:13 AM
I've learned a great deal about human relationships, social interactions in recent months. Mainly male-female relationships, the way men and women think, feel, etc. I understand very well. I reiterate that theres nothing wrong with telling the person you love them, but you seem to be placing it on a grand pedestal and making it out to be some idealistic fairy tale. You have to be independent from the good (and bad) opinion of others, you can not make someone else for responsible for your happiness. If thats how the relationship is, eventually one person is going to become too needy for the other, and they will resent that pressure of being responsible for their happiness. Which then both will become unhappy and the relationship will begin its downward spiral
wooh... what do you think marriage is?!?!?!?!
BeatRice
06-22-2006, 02:53 PM
Thanks for the many advices. A few days ago we grilled outside meat in sticks. He was very happy that he had a good mark of maths. That was so strange... I was like: but you didn't like to eat outside? He said: Well, I celebrate this because I did a good job and to make you happy.
I think it's the stress. It was very bad period, but it looks like it'll changed. Very strange. I had also a very hard time with school. I paid more antention for school instead of him. Could it be?
Glad to hear things are looking up. You did the right thing, paying more attention to school, if he was a good boyfriend he would understand
Psycho
06-22-2006, 03:51 PM
Relationships take alot of effort, dosent seem like hes bothering to put the effort he needs to into your guys relationship ~_~
Markotics
06-22-2006, 04:34 PM
Relationships take alot of effort, dosent seem like hes bothering to put the effort he needs to into your guys relationship ~_~
if a relationship can't get through tough times... then what is that relationship worth?
what im saying is that yes there will be tough times... but what you need is perserverence and faith... you need to start to become 'one' with each other... in marriage, you are ment to give pleasure to your spose... a self-less thing... but when a relationship is growing THERE WILL BE TOUGH TIMES... and no one is perfect . people make mistakes, and they can say/do things they regret in the spur of the moment..
for me i have faith in jesus... so if i get married god comes before my wife and i expect that she puts me behind in 2nd place to jesus. i'm not talking about being a 'christian' thats goes to church, does good things and trys to look perfect..... no no no! that is a fake christian and what i mean by faith i have been saved by jesus and because i am a sinner i am imperfect and will make mistakes in my life... Because jesus is very real, that i have asked him to come into my life and change me for his will which is the better, and that he is a god of love and healing and not of death and conflict.. i put my faith, my life, my worries, fear and pain into his hands and when i am married i will put my marriage into his hands.... but marriage isn't a 1 person thing..... it requires 2 PEOPLE putting effort into it. its a full time 2 person job that after overcoming many hardships it will get so much better later in life. as said in the quote at the top...