Won't be on as much

[Raevn]

At this point, you probably won't see me around these forums much.

Why? I'll explain:


For the past couple of months, I have had a relationship with a girl older than me (not in this community, so don't even guess) by about 6 years. Now, we have not done anything sexual at all, and frankly it has been the happiest I have ever been.

However, I carefully probed my mother regarding age differences when this started, and was forced to lie that the girl was 20, when in reality she was 25.

Last night my mother snuck on my computer and found out her real age, took my cell phone, my modem, and would have taken my 360 had I not threatened to call the cops since I bought it with my own money.

Here I sit in class typing this, very upset because I haven't talked to this girl for over a day now, I know for a fact she is very upset because I heard my mother tell her friend who called "I'm glad she's upset."

My mom is coming in to my school today to talk to a counselor I already had a chat with. If things don't change, I will be leaving this house, and moving in with an aunt or other relative. But either way, you won't be seeing me around much for a while.


-Raevn

[PMS Kahlo]

I'm sorry Raevn. :(

[Pencilposer]

Kind of a overboard reaction, but I can kind of see where your mom is comming from. Have you tried talking to her, calmly, or at least you being the more mature party and listening to her maddening rant?

[icy]

So, she's 25. That would be about an 8 year difference, since you're 17. I don't like your mom.

[Raevn]

So, she's 25. That would be about an 8 year difference, since you're 17. I don't like your mom.

I don't either. I found out my mom got one of her friends who works at the Department of Homeland Security to call her house to scare her. She basically threatens to try and throw her in jail if I have any contact with her.

Thusly, I'm moving out as soon as I'm 18 and can legally transfer high schools on my own.

Far as I'm concerned, I have no mom.

[icy]

wow, no offense on any certain level, but your mom is a *****. her having her friend call her and scare her, that is ****ed up. seriously.

[Raevn]

wow, no offense on any certain level, but your mom is a *****. her having her friend call her and scare her, that is ****ed up. seriously.

I agree. This is so ridiculous. For the next 2 months I can have no contact with her that my mother knows about, we are only communicating through email...

Somebody shoot me. I'm going insane from all of this.

[Kal-El]

Legally can't you move out at 16?

[Raevn]

Legally can't you move out at 16?

I could move out now, yes. But the problem with that is, I wouldn't be able to transfer High Schools (if I move, it's either with my aunt or with this girl, both of which are 6 hours away) so I'm waiting until I'm 18 and can transfer on my own.

That is, unless my mom changes her mind. Which I doubt.

[icy]

Yeah, it's safer to wait. When do you turn 18?

[Raevn]

Yeah, it's safer to wait. When do you turn 18?

December 20th. 24th I'm catching a flight to visit her for 8 days (she payed for the ticket months ago, and I fully intend to use it). Once I get back on the 2nd of January I'm going to transfer high schools and move out.

It can't come fast enough, since it appears my mom will not change her view at all.

[icy]

That's good then. Just wait it out and you'll be fine. At least you turn 18 soon, otherwise that would have been hell. I hope it all works out for you.

[Raevn]

Last night, after finally calming down after all this, my mom exploded again.

She demands that the girl pay her $1100 (when I first started talking to her my mom misinformed me and said I had free nights on my cell phones. I didn't, 500 dollar bill. The second one was my fault and she will be repaid once I start my job in a few days) or she will try and have her jailed for 'assisting a minor with delinquency' from when I stayed with her in a hotel when she first visited me (we still didn't do anything, not that it matters, the legal age of consent in Georgia is 16.

So yeah, basically trying to extort money from her now.

[Night]

wow. honestly. she needs to act maturely, because sheis a parent, and this is def. not maturity here..
the way i see it is this : Your in love. and thats great. and your mom thinks that she can stop you by doing all this stuff. well, thats just wrong, cuz i guess she doesnt know that love has no boundries.

personally, im proud of you for keeping a largly positive attitude towards this situation where your mom who is a ***** for not taking the time and maturity to listen to her own daughter's side. Your seeing through that and not letting her yelling and threats hurt you. cuz honestly, she cant do anything about it.

and if you were younger, i was going to suggest thatyou emancipate yourself., but as you turn 18 in less then two months, it wouldnt be worth the effort.

good luck, and i hope everything works out for you.
-Nick

[Raevn]

All I want her to do is leave the girl alone..but she just wants to make things more difficult.

FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, STOP IT.

[KilloWertz]

That is horrible that you're having to go through this, but at least things will be better soon. Good luck with all of that. I wonder if she's ever going to realize that she's about to "lose" her son.

[Kal-El]

Night;93046']...maturity to listen to her own daughter's side.

Raevn's a daugher now? Was there a sex change I didn't know about? haha

[Raevn]

That is horrible that you're having to go through this, but at least things will be better soon. Good luck with all of that. I wonder if she's ever going to realize that she's about to "lose" her son.

You know, you'd think she'd realize that, but all she is doing is driving me crazy. It is stressing me out so much I'm going to see the school counselor every day just to stop me from screaming and walking out of the building.