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Kal-El
10-10-2006, 05:46 PM
"What would you do if we met on the street and you said hi to me, but instead of saying hi back I walked up and kissed you passionately?"
To you, what does that mean or what signal are you getting?
EDIT: It's obviously someone of your preferred sex that says it to you.
"What would you do if we met on the street and you said hi to me, but instead of saying hi back I walked up and kissed you passionately?"
To you, what does that mean or what signal are you getting?
that you're into men. i'd prolly punch you in the gut cuz you're invading my personal space.
Kal-El
10-10-2006, 05:48 PM
that you're into men. i'd prolly punch you in the gut cuz you're invading my personal space.
Um it was a girl that said it to me.
Um it was a girl that said it to me.
well then you should have said a girl asked you that lol.
anyway, if a girl asked me that, i'd prolly tell her i'd kiss her back. but thats just me.
Kal-El
10-10-2006, 05:51 PM
well then you should have said a girl asked you that lol.
anyway, if a girl asked me that, i'd prolly tell her i'd kiss her back. but thats just me.
I assume you'd understand that the girl must like you, right?
well yeah, otherwise i doubt a girl would just come over and kiss me after i say hi lol.
Prophet
10-10-2006, 05:54 PM
If the girl doesn't like you then maybe that's just her way of being friendly?
Kal-El
10-10-2006, 05:55 PM
If the girl doesn't like you then maybe that's just her way of being friendly?
Kissing people passionately is being friendly? A little TOO friendly if you ask me lol.
depends entirely on the person (we'll assume a girl since we're guys discussing it, otherwise refer to vinx's punching comment), do you like said girl, would you want them to do that had they not stated the question? And of course the most important, is this after (assuming you liked the person) you picked your jaw up off the floor :p
InSaNe1
10-10-2006, 06:49 PM
Id assume she really liked you..and that she sexually harassed you with her unsolicited advances. I smell a lawsuit ^-^ Bwahaha
Kal-El
10-10-2006, 08:16 PM
depends entirely on the person (we'll assume a girl since we're guys discussing it, otherwise refer to vinx's punching comment), do you like said girl, would you want them to do that had they not stated the question? And of course the most important, is this after (assuming you liked the person) you picked your jaw up off the floor :p
That's the problem. She said it and other things like it.I assumed she liked me. Other girls also confirmed that I was right in my thinking.
Problem is; I found out I was wrong after making a fool out of myself.
Basically everything I thought was wrong and she was lieing to me from the start. Actually not lieing... just hiding the fact that she liked some other dude and decided to say things that would send the wrong signals instead of saying "Hey I like this other dude." The worst part is she doesn't believe I have any reason to be mad at her.
I'm not at home at the moment, but when I am I'll probably post the whole story.
Lady Eve PMS
10-10-2006, 08:49 PM
She likes you. End of story.
Prophet
10-10-2006, 08:57 PM
This is one messed up girl if she is leading you on in order to tell you that she likes another guy.
Kal-El
10-10-2006, 09:27 PM
She likes you. End of story.
That's why when I brought her flowers, a teddy, and a card when she was sick she ended up with some other dude?
Paulina
10-10-2006, 09:47 PM
Question is.....Is The Guy Kissing Me Hot??
Kal-El
10-11-2006, 02:26 AM
Question is.....Is The Guy Kissing Me Hot??
There's more to life than "hotness."
PMS Rain
10-11-2006, 03:23 AM
Well it would depend on the girl I suppose, and if a relationship could come of it. I have no clue what I would do, I'd more than likely be so caught off guard I'd just turn bright red and be speechless. Is she hot does come to mind, but in the end that wouldn't matter because I'm not shallow like that. Good question it is, ponder it I will.
S w a k
10-11-2006, 06:09 AM
I'd assume she was either
A. Crazy
B. Really into you
C. Just plain odd.
Most likely B.
Kal-El
10-11-2006, 11:17 AM
Ok well here's the whole story:
well the basic gist of it is that there was a girl (big surprise a girl's involved huh?). We were talking for awhile and she had just got out of a bad relationship, and would say stuff like "I don't want a relationship right now, I just got out of one and it'll take a while before I can trust a guy again." Me, being the nice guy I am, understood, and so we just kept talking as friends and me being a listener to all her problems (and pretty much talking her into a good mood every time she was down).
Well one day she asked me "do you think you could ever fall in love with me?" Now what's the first thing that comes to mind when someone asks something like that? She's got feelings for you, but she wants to know what your feelings are before saying anything, right? Well that's what I thought and many other girls I know thought when I told them about it. My reply to her was that it was quite possible because and I wrote like whole paragraph about why it was possible to fall in love with her. Apparently it even made her cry (she never cries) it was so sweet.
After that she would say stuff like "what would you do if we met on the street somewhere and you said hi and I didn't say anything back, but instead just walk up and kiss you passionately?" She's even tell me about how she adores me and how I always make her feel better just by talking to her no matter what's wrong, and how I'm too nice, etc/
The weird thing is she'd always seem to have an excuse on why we can't meet. At first I understood because of the relationship thing, but now that she was talking as if she loved me I wanted to meet her (she lives down the street from me like 5 minutes away on foot). She'd say stuff like she can't go out on weekdays because she's got too much stuff to do for school and that she's always dead tired because of it. I understood. Then she'd make up other excuses for why she can't on the weekend. I'd try to organize something ahead of time so she doesn't make plans, but she'd always say "well see" and then either make plans or some other excuse why she can't.
Then one night we were talking about meeting and told me that she couldn't do it on weekdays because she knows that if we meet that we'll end up messing around and that she'll be up too late and be tired the next day for school. I said well I'll make you go home after like 10-15 minutes. and she said that that wouldn't work because she wouldn't listen to me. I thought it was funny, but she had a point so I didn't think much of it. Then she started talking about how she wanted to surprise me, and just show up at my house one day. This happened Thursday.
She also told me that she wouldn't be able to talk to me untill Sunday night because she was going to her cottage for thanksgiving.
To my surprise she connects to msn on Friday night and I'm like "weren't you supposed to be at your cottage?" And she said she stayed home because she was sick and had to go to the doctor the next day.
Next day rolls around and she comes back from the doctor. She's got mono (her brother apparently had it a month before). So I tell her that I'm going to surprise her with something, and she freaks out because she wants to know what. She thinks that I was going to go over and want to hangout and she needs to rest. I told her I wouldn't do anything like that, but because I told her a couple times that I should bring her chicken noodle soup or something, or that I want to cuddle with her to make her feel better (she actually liked that idea). My actual surprise was I had bought her flowers, a teddy bear, and a card as a get well soon present and was going to bring it to her.
I brought them to her and she said I was too nice and then I left. I come back home (happy that I finally saw her face to face even if it wasn't for long. I wanted her to rest because I thought she was sick) and she's got "I love Jee" in her msn name (it wasn't there when I left). I asked her who it was and she said it was her cousin. Didn't make a big deal about it. She's allowed to love her cousin, right? We chat awhile and then she goes to bed.
The next day (Monday) I see her online and say her. I try to talk to her, but she seems really distant. The most I get are one word answers, and most of them sound as if she's annoyed at me. So I leave her alone for most of the day, but worry about what's going on (I've have nothing but bad experiences with girls, so I can't help but worry when something doesn't seem right, and I'm always right.) Later that night I finally get her talking and I'm relieved. Nothing seems wrong it must have been that she was just distracted or wasn't feeling well. Then I say something and she says "my heart already belongs to someone else, sorry" and I'm like "wtf? what was with you talking as if you liked me then?" and she says "I'm sorry I wasn't taking what I was saying very seriously." and then she comes up with some excuse that she didn't tell me from the beginning because she didn't want to hurt my feelings and it's also why she kept making excuses about why we couldn't meet in person.
Apparently when I brought her the flowers, the guy that she liked came right after I left and told her he liked her, and everything she said and I thought from the beginning was a lie.
Maybe someone will be able to tell me what the heck is going on. :( :confused:
PMS Rain
10-11-2006, 12:09 PM
Yeah, girls can f*** with your head just as bad as guys. I had one tell me she loved me then she cheated on me that very night. Anyone can make assumptions on what she was thinking this whole time but my best suggestion is to just ask her. I'm not sure you want to continue talking to her after what she did though. Sorry to hear about all this drama (Jennifer hates drama).
Kal-El
10-11-2006, 05:47 PM
Yeah, girls can f*** with your head just as bad as guys. I had one tell me she loved me then she cheated on me that very night. Anyone can make assumptions on what she was thinking this whole time but my best suggestion is to just ask her. I'm not sure you want to continue talking to her after what she did though. Sorry to hear about all this drama (Jennifer hates drama).
The thing is when all your relationships turn out bad (like mine have), you sorta start losing hope. Every relationship I've ever been end I've ended up being lied to, cheated on, and/or treated like crap. It's starting to wear thin.
I used to believe in Karma. I thought "oh sure I'm hurt now, but the right girl is just around the corner."
Karma would owe me like 20 girls by now. I just want one, but Karma can't even give me that.
What really burns me is that I see people that shouldn't be within 100 yards of society let alone someone of the opposite sex (or same sex depending on how they swing), but they've somehow got a girlfriend/boyfriend and what ever. Am I missing something here?
PMS Rain
10-11-2006, 06:01 PM
The thing is when all your relationships turn out bad (like mine have), you sorta start losing hope. Every relationship I've ever been end I've ended up being lied to, cheated on, and/or treated like crap. It's starting to wear thin.
Well, the thing is, the only relationship that doesn't turn out bad is the one that desn't/hasn't ended yet (I don't believe in a "good breakup" it just doesn't exist). So of course they all have.
You worry too much, you're still young and have pleanty of prime time to meet new people and fall in love, blah, blah, etc. Not everyoen gets married right out of college or high school or whatever.... chill guy..
(or same sex depending on how they swing)
.... cute hehe
Kal-El
10-11-2006, 06:08 PM
Well, the thing is, the only relationship that doesn't turn out bad is the one that desn't/hasn't ended yet (I don't believe in a "good breakup" it just doesn't exist). So of course they all have.
You worry too much, you're still young and have pleanty of prime time to meet new people and fall in love, blah, blah, etc. Not everyoen gets married right out of college or high school or whatever.... chill guy..
Well I would have liked a couple break ups that were because one of us had to move away or something to kinda space out the crap that keeps happening.
I also don't want to be 55 before having kids. I want to have them young enough so that when I'm old they're old enough to pay for my retirement home.
x SexyPink x
10-11-2006, 10:32 PM
bros b4 hoes
Kal-El
10-12-2006, 12:00 AM
bros b4 hoes
It would help if I could manage to get a "hoe", so that I could put my "bros" before her. ;)
CajunH2O
10-12-2006, 12:47 AM
The thing is when all your relationships turn out bad (like mine have), you sorta start losing hope. Every relationship I've ever been end I've ended up being lied to, cheated on, and/or treated like crap. It's starting to wear thin.
I used to believe in Karma. I thought "oh sure I'm hurt now, but the right girl is just around the corner."
Karma would owe me like 20 girls by now. I just want one, but Karma can't even give me that.
What really burns me is that I see people that shouldn't be within 100 yards of society let alone someone of the opposite sex (or same sex depending on how they swing), but they've somehow got a girlfriend/boyfriend and what ever. Am I missing something here?
I feel ya dude. And I always get the "well lets just be friends, you're too nice" So lemme see you'd rather have this ******* who treats you like crap over me, a nice caring cinsiderate guy(who most people say dont exist anymore???) WTF?? Should I too become an *******?? My case, girls say they want that sweet caring guy, so I make my move, but Im too sweet and like a brother. This last girl was allways saying stuff we went out a few thimes then she suddenly says shes too busy to commit to anyone. So I call her bluff, and she fianlly says well there was no chemistry for me, you're like a brother. Lets just be friends. Bleh Im sick of it and feel your pain man. I doubt I'll ever find anyone myself......
Genghis Is My Homeboy
10-13-2006, 03:49 PM
:mad: That girl is horrible. I CANNOT STAND girls like that. She's just a freakin' attention *****. She's one of those girls that just wants to feel like everyone wants her. She's the kind of girl that plays with people for her own freakin amusement. Stab her.
But seriously, DO NOT GIVE UP. True, there are tons of girls like that, but there are also a lot of girls who would love to have someone like you, and my theory is you'll eventually have to run into at least one of them.
And girls do happen to fall for jerks about a hundred times before they learn.
And there is definitely no such thing as 'too nice'. They're just trying to spare your feelings instead of telling you the truth.
Sir Tequila
10-15-2006, 01:24 AM
"What would you do if we met on the street and you said hi to me, but instead of saying hi back I walked up and kissed you passionately?"
I'm pretty sure I'd die. My interest right now is just...wow.
Kal-El
10-15-2006, 01:27 AM
I'm pretty sure I'd die. My interest right now is just...wow.
But if someone asked you that wouldn't you assume they had feelings for you. I mean why would you do that or even talk about doing that to someone you don't have feelings for?
Sir Tequila
10-15-2006, 01:28 AM
But if someone asked you that wouldn't you assume they had feelings for you. I mean why would you do that or even talk about doing that to someone you don't have feelings for?
Maybe they want a psychology degree? I like to ask philsophical questions.
PMS HateMaker
10-15-2006, 08:23 AM
Well I would have liked a couple break ups that were because one of us had to move away or something to kinda space out the crap that keeps happening. I also don't want to be 55 before having kids. I want to have them young enough so that when I'm old they're old enough to pay for my retirement home.
I'm really sorry dude :( I know how much it sucks to have your heart played with, and I gotta say that Ghengis is right. This girl just wants everyone to want her, and I've met at least 50 girls like this. You're amusing and flattering to her when she has nothing else better to do, and its not that she DIDN'T want to hurt your feelings, because she doesn't care about your feelings. What she didn't want to do was deal with your hurt feelings and the embarassment that comes along with being found out for the faithless person that you are.
I also know that you don't wanna hear this but dating under 23 is almost always practice dating (or should be.) Most girls in their 20s (and some never learn) are interested in their fantasy guys: the attractive jerks that hollywood, and popular books/media etc program us to believe we can change from the jerks they are into caring, sensitive boyfriends that will one day ride in on their white motorcyles to propose and whisk us off to paradise to be wealthy women of leisure.
A lot of women grow up though, and realize that there really is nothing attractive about these jerks at all other than the skin on the outside. Then they remember the really sweet guy that lives down the street that would never say mean things to her, or ditch her for his buddies on her birthday. I promise if you continue to be a sweet, honest, caring person eventually a girl you really like will see your worth. Just remember that girls between the ages of 14 & 23 are basically blind.
Genghis Is My Homeboy
10-15-2006, 09:54 AM
I'm really sorry dude :( I know how much it sucks to have your heart played with, and I gotta say that Ghengis is right. This girl just wants everyone to want her, and I've met at least 50 girls like this. You're amusing and flattering to her when she has nothing else better to do, and its not that she DIDN'T want to hurt your feelings, because she doesn't care about your feelings. What she didn't want to do was deal with your hurt feelings and the embarassment that comes along with being found out for the faithless person that you are.
I also know that you don't wanna hear this but dating under 23 is almost always practice dating (or should be.) Most girls in their 20s (and some never learn) are interested in their fantasy guys: the attractive jerks that hollywood, and popular books/media etc program us to believe we can change from the jerks they are into caring, sensitive boyfriends that will one day ride in on their white motorcyles to propose and whisk us off to paradise to be wealthy women of leisure.
A lot of women grow up though, and realize that there really is nothing attractive about these jerks at all other than the skin on the outside. Then they remember the really sweet guy that lives down the street that would never say mean things to her, or ditch her for his buddies on her birthday. I promise if you continue to be a sweet, honest, caring person eventually a girl you really like will see your worth. Just remember that girls between the ages of 14 & 23 are basically blind.
I totally agree. I feel bad for a lot of my guy friends because girls do things like this to them all the time :cool:
Sir Tequila
10-15-2006, 10:13 AM
Here's a question that needs answering (teehee): Can women be interested in younger men?
PMS HateMaker
10-15-2006, 12:30 PM
I totally agree. I feel bad for a lot of my guy friends because girls do things like this to them all the time
Yeah :( Conversely, the 14-23 year old guys are a lot of the time looking for the next best thing. They may have a beautiful, intelligent, and fun girlfriend and yet they refuse to "commit" to her or be too loving or serious with her because something better might walk by tomorrow. From whichever side of the fence you sit on...its going to suck until everyone grows up :( Or, if you're really worried about getting hurt perhaps its best to not take anything too seriously relationship-wise until you're in your late 20s or early 30s.
Kal-El
10-15-2006, 04:35 PM
Yeah :( Conversely, the 14-23 year old guys are a lot of the time looking for the next best thing. They may have a beautiful, intelligent, and fun girlfriend and yet they refuse to "commit" to her or be too loving or serious with her because something better might walk by tomorrow. From whichever side of the fence you sit on...its going to suck until everyone grows up :( Or, if you're really worried about getting hurt perhaps its best to not take anything too seriously relationship-wise until you're in your late 20s or early 30s.
I've always taken my relationships seriously. Which is probably why I didn't have my first girlfriend till I was 16-17.