View Full Version : Should Gamers Date!?
H2O Renjin
10-08-2006, 08:27 PM
PMS Aliki and myself have come across this question...
"Should Gamers date"!?
vote
H2OSilentCid
10-08-2006, 08:28 PM
Was this question brought up when you were pillow talking it on vent?
H2O Renjin
10-08-2006, 08:30 PM
(o_O)
PMSAliki
10-08-2006, 08:33 PM
Pillow talking? Us? Who? What? IDK what you are talking about. Gamers should date but they need games that they dont play together so they can have alone time! LOL But I think people shouldnt ONLY date cause they think they will like eachother cause they play games. Guys think a gamer girl is a dream, but once the excitement wears off you have only eachother to like... not the game they play. But yeah gamers should date. Will someone date me... hint hint certain someone hint hint!
H2O Renjin
10-08-2006, 08:36 PM
sweats (;o_o)
PMS Giggles
10-08-2006, 08:39 PM
Aliki and Renjin--so cute! Have you seen their WoW chars? Dayquil and Nyquil!
Jejor
10-08-2006, 08:41 PM
Let's look at this logically. A gamer is made up of two parts: a person and the games they play. So first, ask yourself this: should people date? Then ask yourself this: should games date?
Yeah, ok, that didn't help at all. But we did learn that I'm a dork...oh, that was common knowledge as well... nevermind then, my post doesn't move this thread forward whatsoever. I probably shouldn't even post it. But my cursor is closer to the submit reply button, so I guess I'll post it.
Let's look at this logically. A gamer is made up of two parts: a person and the games they play. So first, ask yourself this: should people date? Then ask yourself this: should games date?
Yeah, ok, that didn't help at all. But we did learn that I'm a dork...oh, that was common knowledge as well... nevermind then, my post doesn't move this thread forward whatsoever. I probably shouldn't even post it. But my cursor is closer to the submit reply button, so I guess I'll post it.
JEJOR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Genghis Is My Homeboy
10-08-2006, 08:45 PM
Yes, they should as long as they have their own set ups. I know people who had to share a computer and whatever consoles they had. I know it's more expensive to buy extra TV's and computers, but in the long run no one will get killed because they can't play what they want.
Also, it harbors healthy competition for single player mode >D
Jejor
10-08-2006, 08:45 PM
Vinx!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Jejor
10-08-2006, 08:50 PM
Watching football on my new TV. And watching baseball on my old TV. Just hanging out. How about you?
Wow way to multitask. i'm listenin to the radio really loud since im home alone. waitin for a call from my friend so i know when i can head over there.
Jejor
10-08-2006, 09:00 PM
Very cool. Yeah, everyone should have two TVs in their room, especially if you watch football. Oh, and everyone should have Halo 2...and Halo 1...and pretty much everything that Bungie has ever done...
dark x2
10-08-2006, 09:04 PM
ya i think gamers should date i mean im already dating a certain someone....
The Geeky Panda
10-08-2006, 09:04 PM
of course gamers should date, the only reason why I met my new girlfriend is because we played DOA 4 against each other and she managed to beat me, then she said its her first time in the game. Course she owns her own PS2 and GC but no games sadly, (I will fix that) but yeh. Gamers should date each other.
you've done a halo 3 beta, wanna give me that? :P
i downloaded marathon 2 today from that site that was linked to on the bungie forums...holy crap does that confuse me.
dark x2
10-08-2006, 09:05 PM
of course gamers should date, the only reason why I met my new girlfriend is because we played DOA 4 against each other and she managed to beat me, then she said its her first time in the game. Course she owns her own PS2 and GC but no games sadly, (I will fix that) but yeh. Gamers should date each other.
ya i met mine on halo 2:D
The Geeky Panda
10-08-2006, 09:08 PM
lol yeh she does play Xbox but I am trying to get her into Xbox 360 and PC, 360 its easier and she lieks playing games on it, PC she just needs to know what to do and the controls. Course everytime we spar in DOA 4 she beats me and its really good but she keeps saying "You let me win" with me replying "no I was trying my hardest and your tough" course we ended up smiling each other then a kiss, course now my 360 is dead and it sucks so waiting for it to come back to me so me and my gf can play again.
Jejor
10-08-2006, 09:14 PM
You can play Halo 3 all you want once you come work for Bungie.
I've never personally played any of the Bungie games before Halo 1. Hell, I had never played Halo 2 online until like 4 months ago...
get me a job then! im sure bungie is willing to hire a 16 year old graphics designer :p
dark x2
10-08-2006, 09:23 PM
You can play Halo 3 all you want once you come work for Bungie.
I've never personally played any of the Bungie games before Halo 1. Hell, I had never played Halo 2 online until like 4 months ago...
lol...y
Thorn Harvestar
10-08-2006, 09:38 PM
I've dated 2 true gamers, and the one I am with now is awesomesauce.
The previous one, while not my type relationship-wise, is still a good friend.
So I vote "yes".
KilloWertz
10-08-2006, 09:45 PM
I don't see why not, so I vote yes.
PMSAliki
10-08-2006, 10:42 PM
ya i think gamers should date i mean im already dating a certain someone....
Ohh do tell =)
H2O Renjin
10-08-2006, 10:45 PM
i see mroe conversations then voting!!!! VOTE!!!!
PMSAliki
10-08-2006, 10:46 PM
Ok Vinx and Jejor talk on AIM or something!!!!!
I want LOVE stories of gamers meeting!!!! post I wanna read I will have yours after nov 1.
H2O Renjin
10-08-2006, 10:47 PM
*blushes and goes to get some drinks*
H2O SkywalkerX
10-09-2006, 12:13 AM
of course gamers should date, it means they have something in common... games. but no one should date someone because they are a girl and play halo2 lmao, that's just dumb.
i wanna know who voted no, they didn't post their reason why.
haha hey jejor, stop taking bat's money on xbl k? ;-)
Ok down to the serious discussion:
I actually agree with the technical / literalist viewpoint in the duality of the topic, but I'll throw in a slightly different perspective as well. I will first of assume that we are all gamers (hardcore, quasi-gamers....whatever), then I will pose this simple question: Do you think you could be with someone who was not, at the very least, understanding of your passion for gaming? Clearly for me I would have to say no, I may have friends in all walks of life, but a relationship with someone who did not at least understand and respect gamers / gaming is out of the question. Obviously fellow gamers generally fit into the understanding category so it seems logical the answer to the original question should be a resounding yes.
But wait, we have a problem, and its more than just class in 7 hours when I said I was going to sleep an hour ago. Gaming, while these days does a great job at connecting people of all types (these forums for example), it also is inherently difficult to develop and maintain any sort of relationship. This is for several reasons. First off, gaming takes a lot of attention; and relationships take a lot of attention. Naturally whether you want to or not, your partner has a limited amount of attention, which must (obviously) be divided among a variety of things, especially gaming and maintaining the relationship. Flexibility is key here, if both people involved can handle the division of attention then things can potentially work. No offense to the younger people, but it seems that older folks are better at doing this, most likely because they've had to shift attention between a million things with life after school / college...etc. We all love attention, it is getting the right balance that is the key, and that is a real challenge.
The second issue is in the nature of community gaming we face today. As an example, this community, most of us are pretty friendly, especially if we've met in person. In that way you might consider it a close group. This means that any relationship not only becomes public knowledge rather quickly, but any falterings and mudslinging are unusually ugly - ending in damaging (often irrecoverably) the reputation of one or both parties involved. And polarizing the community is a bad thing.
Because of these last few points, from watching it appears to me that gamer relationships sadly rarely work. I would mostly attest this to the long distant nature many take on, as well as overlapping interests in the community. Most guys at this point may simply be afraid of going into that territory, one slip and not only have you lost an amazing girl, but also the community that is almost like a family. I have no doubt the ladies face similar pressures. Its a case of you couldn't live without them, but now can you live with them.
Enough doom and gloom. The end result is that while challenging, I'm sure we all here want to believe they can work. Sure it wouldn't be a piece of cake, but I firmly believe that relationships between gamers can work - it just takes an incredible amount of effort and a lot of flexibility.
So after we all stop making fun of renjin (um......this may take a while) i'm going to get to sleep ;)
I Say Yes, But Only If They Keep Is RelastsionShip Privet, and Dont Bring Problems On XBL
dark x2
10-09-2006, 12:59 AM
I Say Yes, But Only If They Keep Is RelastsionShip Privet, and Dont Bring Problems On XBL
the private part no...but the problems ya thats true
dark x2
10-09-2006, 01:01 AM
Ohh do tell =)well....just 4 the record shes not a pms girl she use 2 be about a year ago...but her bro made her get out...cuz he didnt like pms..that h8tr
PMSAliki
10-09-2006, 01:11 AM
You use a lot of big words and its late, I wish I had the focus to finish. and who is making fun of Renjin?
haha hey jejor, stop taking bat's money on xbl k? ;-)
Ok down to the serious discussion:
I actually agree with the technical / literalist viewpoint in the duality of the topic, but I'll throw in a slightly different perspective as well. I will first of assume that we are all gamers (hardcore, quasi-gamers....whatever), then I will pose this simple question: Do you think you could be with someone who was not, at the very least, understanding of your passion for gaming? Clearly for me I would have to say no, I may have friends in all walks of life, but a relationship with someone who did not at least understand and respect gamers / gaming is out of the question. Obviously fellow gamers generally fit into the understanding category so it seems logical the answer to the original question should be a resounding yes.
But wait, we have a problem, and its more than just class in 7 hours when I said I was going to sleep an hour ago. Gaming, while these days does a great job at connecting people of all types (these forums for example), it also is inherently difficult to develop and maintain any sort of relationship. This is for several reasons. First off, gaming takes a lot of attention; and relationships take a lot of attention. Naturally whether you want to or not, your partner has a limited amount of attention, which must (obviously) be divided among a variety of things, especially gaming and maintaining the relationship. Flexibility is key here, if both people involved can handle the division of attention then things can potentially work. No offense to the younger people, but it seems that older folks are better at doing this, most likely because they've had to shift attention between a million things with life after school / college...etc. We all love attention, it is getting the right balance that is the key, and that is a real challenge.
The second issue is in the nature of community gaming we face today. As an example, this community, most of us are pretty friendly, especially if we've met in person. In that way you might consider it a close group. This means that any relationship not only becomes public knowledge rather quickly, but any falterings and mudslinging are unusually ugly - ending in damaging (often irrecoverably) the reputation of one or both parties involved. And polarizing the community is a bad thing.
Because of these last few points, from watching it appears to me that gamer relationships sadly rarely work. I would mostly attest this to the long distant nature many take on, as well as overlapping interests in the community. Most guys at this point may simply be afraid of going into that territory, one slip and not only have you lost an amazing girl, but also the community that is almost like a family. I have no doubt the ladies face similar pressures. Its a case of you couldn't live without them, but now can you live with them.
Enough doom and gloom. The end result is that while challenging, I'm sure we all here want to believe they can work. Sure it wouldn't be a piece of cake, but I firmly believe that relationships between gamers can work - it just takes an incredible amount of effort and a lot of flexibility.
So after we all stop making fun of renjin (um......this may take a while) i'm going to get to sleep ;)
H2O Renjin
10-09-2006, 01:12 AM
*blinks* uh.... goodnight... big words... head hurts...
Kasumi Chan PMS
10-09-2006, 02:08 AM
I have had success and failure in this area, and I have discovered the reasons:
1)There is a difference between a hardcore gamer and a casual gamer. A casual gamer will not understand when a hardcore gamer plays for 15 hours straight. A casual gamer cannot seem to watch a hardcore gamer play and vice versa. A casual gamer might pride themselves on being very good at a game that they have never played another human at, which obviously pissed us harcore gamers off. So you see, there needs to be a distinction between these two types of gamers and understand that in my experience, people have to be quite accepting of eachother for this to work.
2)If two gamers are two exist in a relationship, one of them or both cannot be needy attention whores. Being a needy attention ***** doesn't get you anything but strangled when someone is playing a game, plain and simple. I have discovered that is not only women who nag their men to get off a game and spend some time with them, most of my boyfriends have nagged me!
But anyway, I'm in a relationship with a gamer now, and he is wonderfully supportive and accepting. Half our time is spent doing things together (other than games) the other is spent in his apartment where we have two TV's set side by side to play our seperate games, together. We are both open to watching eachother play, etc, etc.
Of course though, in my experience for any relationship to work gamer or non gamer, you have to be open-minded, respectful and accepting towards other human beings.
Nokarot
10-09-2006, 02:57 AM
Relationships are generally funner if both people share common interests. If gaming is one of them, that can't be a bad thing. Depends on whether they're on the same page or not, too, I suppose.. The casual gamer dating the power gamer.. and then you'd also have to make sure that priorities are in place so you dont cancel a date so you can raid Molten Core (unless they would understand / would also be a part of it.. then maybe they'd be cool with it).
Also, I think its important that things aren't strictly internet and miles and miles away. Sometimes it works out, I'll admit to it, because I know 3 couples who met online who are now married/soon to be married/live together. But I can also name 50 that haven't gone as well.
PMS HateMaker
10-09-2006, 06:47 AM
Well, my husband I met playing video-games and its still our main form of entertainment today. During one long evening raid we started talking about music and pop-culture and other stuff (I was fairly new to the guild while he was an officer.)
After that night we started playing together all the time. He was used to playing in the A.M. but he switched to late-nite and early hours of the morning to play with me after about a month. He told everyone, "the nocturnal wench has stole my soul" lol. After about 6 months of playing together all the time and talking on the phone we decided it would be fun to meet in person, and so he drove to Wisconsin to see me. After that we started driving back and forth to visit each other every couple of months. That went on for about a year and then we couldn't bear to say goodbye anymore and got engaged, and then 5 months after that we were married. We've been married for 2 years and four months now :) We don't play EverQuest anymore (because that game sucks now) but our relationship lives on haha.
Is that romantic enough for two nerds Aliki? lol
SO THATS WHY YOU NEVER PLAY SOCOM ANYORE YOU PLAY WoW?!?!?!?!?!?! You are so busted lol
H2O Renjin
10-09-2006, 08:11 AM
Aliki got WTFPwned in the face :D
PMS Anarchy
10-09-2006, 11:43 AM
I think gamers should, I am dating one as a matter of fact as well =) As long as you share a common interest and it happens to be games its fine =)
PMSAliki
10-09-2006, 11:45 AM
im not busted! just bust till after NY
PMS Anarchy
10-09-2006, 11:46 AM
ny is ganna be boat loads of fun <<is goin WOOTOS
hot chief DSO
10-09-2006, 12:21 PM
Why should gamers be restricted?
I agree with Null -- keep it private and keep your drama out of our collective house (XBL).
PMS Stargirl
10-09-2006, 12:37 PM
Hey, Immortal is asleep at my house as I type this lol Yeah we have a great relastionship and it is geting beter everyday he is here with me so I say YES
PMS Miss X
10-09-2006, 12:38 PM
I really dont think the question should be should gamers date. If you like a person and you like them for who they are and not just because they play games then yeah date. Its the same thing for none gamers. Playing video games is just having something in common and being a serious intense gamer and dating another serious intense gamer is just having alot in common. Liking eachother online because you both play whatever game is different than actually forming a love for one another and alot of times people base this likeing of another gamer only on that persons looks, and skill at whatever game it is that they both love. Which is a big mistake. But maybe thats just me cause I wont just date someone cause i kinda like them and we both play the same game. Although having a boy who plays video games and is good at it... is quite the plus.
You use a lot of big words and its late, I wish I had the focus to finish. and who is making fun of Renjin?
*blinks* uh.... goodnight... big words... head hurts...
Sheesh, if I didn't know one of you (well both in a few days I guess), I'd be checking IP addresses ;)
Try reading it sometime, it won't make much more sense because um......this is me we're talking about, but I think there might be a decent point or two buried somewhere in the verbiage. I'm actually surprised the number of people who either can affirm, or have been in a relationship with another gamer. Most have kept out of the zone for the drama llama, so much kudos there.
I suppose if you don't feel like trying to decipher mine, kasumi made the many of my points much more eloquently.
MacGrandma
10-09-2006, 05:10 PM
I agree it should be kept private especially concerning xbl and PMS/H2o. Otherwise go for it! :) If it works out then woot fantastic! But yea if it's not your PMS or H2o then keep it in private status and keep it on the down low so it doesn't cause other PMS/H2o future conflicts with up and coming PMS and H2o I mean they will use examples of other members/staff or overlords to set new rules etc..:) Anyway Good luck!
H2O Renjin
10-09-2006, 05:55 PM
Sheesh, if I didn't know one of you (well both in a few days I guess), I'd be checking IP addresses ;)
Try reading it sometime, it won't make much more sense because um......this is me we're talking about, but I think there might be a decent point or two buried somewhere in the verbiage. I'm actually surprised the number of people who either can affirm, or have been in a relationship with another gamer. Most have kept out of the zone for the drama llama, so much kudos there.
I suppose if you don't feel like trying to decipher mine, kasumi made the many of my points much more eloquently.
Lol, Rip. I reread the post after actually getting some sleep. It makes sense to me lol. Anyway this is awesome guys love hearing storys and idea all about this. :D
hot chief DSO
10-09-2006, 07:17 PM
I agree it should be kept private especially concerning xbl and PMS/H2o. Otherwise go for it! :) If it works out then woot fantastic! But yea if it's not your PMS or H2o then keep it in private status and keep it on the down low so it doesn't cause other PMS/H2o future conflicts with up and coming PMS and H2o I mean they will use examples of other members/staff or overlords to set new rules etc..:) Anyway Good luck!
RIGHT ON --- NO DATING *MY* H2O Defective!!! :p hehehheheehee
I don't like to share!! Grrrr :mad:
He's MINE MINE MINE! :eek:
On PMS: Oh yeah, they have that new-ish "divisional dating" rule.
dark x2
10-09-2006, 07:47 PM
I agree it should be kept private especially concerning xbl and PMS/H2o. Otherwise go for it! :) If it works out then woot fantastic! But yea if it's not your PMS or H2o then keep it in private status and keep it on the down low so it doesn't cause other PMS/H2o future conflicts with up and coming PMS and H2o I mean they will use examples of other members/staff or overlords to set new rules etc..:) Anyway Good luck!
huh...good point
Yes, games should date. Me and my borfriend now are both gamers, and that's only one of the reasons he likes me. He's the president of our LAN club at school and I'm the secretary, lol. but yeah, gamers should date.
AngelsFromAbove
10-09-2006, 09:02 PM
So, I was engaged to my bf of 4.5 years. Around the time Halo2 came out, he started playing it alot, and ignoring me. I got fed up with that pretty easily, so I pretty much go by the theory 'if you can't beat them, join them'. So I picked up Halo2, and made my very first GT: Neuticles (ask if you want to know what it means). I was soooo bad at the game, but he'd be at work, and I'd play and soon started to make friends. So when he got home from work, I was more occupied with my friends on Halo2 than him, which didn't go over well as you could imagine. We started having rough spots, and instead of just a time-passer, Halo2 actually became an escape for me. Soon after that, last summer, I learned about and joined the PMS clan, with my new GT: AngelsFromAbove.
This 'clan' was a whole different can of worms, cuz now I had the excuse I needed to get on for practice, and soon I got interested in the MLG scene. All the while my 'fiance' was getting incredibly jealous of the time I was not spending with him (even though he had done it to me). In October of 2005, I met H2o Soccerbear (Soccergirl PMS's H2o at the time). We started playing alot and talking, almost an instant friendship. He told me he was going to MLG LA to meet Soccergirl, and hoping they'd hit it off. I was secretly jealous, even though I was 'engaged'.
Well, things in LA didn't go as he planned, so as a good friend I talked to him through it, and we became that much closer. When he got back, we talked more, sometimes all night, and my fiance was becoming a distant thought. (But trust me, Halo2 was far from the ONLY demise of THAT relationship). In December, I went to MLG Chicago, without Jon (soccerbear) and he got jealous that I was gonna meet other guys. I told him to not worry, cuz I wasn't interested. We talked all throught MLG and became even closer.
In January, my Grandma needed an escort out to Cali (we live in Ohio), and I immediately offered, cuz Jon lives there. I arranged my trip to be for a week, I'd take her out there, and spend a week with him. He picked me up 3 hours from his house (to where my grandma was) and things were amazing. We went out, he took me to his parents house, we clicked instantly. It was to the point I wouldn't even answer my phone for my 'fiance'. So, after a week of greatness, I reluctantly returned to Ohio and ended it with my fiance. I gave my ring back (hesitantly) and told him we needed to be over. I said I had fallen in love with Jon and he was what I wanted now.
After a messy break up with him, I returned to Cali in March over my spring break for another week with Jon. This time was better than the last, and our connection was incredible. We decided he'd come to Ohio for my graduation, senior banquet, nursing pinning, and long enough for me to take my boards. He came here April 28th, and has been here ever since. He got his job transferred, and we're making a brand new life for ourselves. We have an amazing apartment, 3 wonderfu cats, a turtle, he let me get pumpkins to carve for halloween, and things with us are just amazing. I couldn't have asked for anything more.
As far as the video game part? When he first got here, we played alot. We each had a TV and XBOX set up, which made it nice. But soon we realized that we weren't spending quality time together (a downfall of my previous relationship). So we made a deal (with exceptions of course) that if we were both home together, we'd find something else to do besides video games. I get mad really easy at the game and take it out on him, and that's not fair at all. But since then, our deal has worked out. When he's working or sleeping, I play and vice versa. It's nice, and we still get gaming in together on occasion, just not frequently. Other than that... my vote is 10000% yes for gamers dating. :)
KilloWertz
10-09-2006, 09:10 PM
That was quite a story, and I'm glad it had a happy ending for you. Yes, I did read it all. :)
Same here wertz. I just finished reading it and I have to say, good for you. I'm glad it worked out and you are the shinigh example of why gamers should date. Because it could happen to anyone. :)
AngelsFromAbove
10-09-2006, 10:24 PM
yaaaaaaaa, about that... ima talker :D
yaaaaaaaa, about that... ima talker :D
moolllyyy!! im so glad you and jon are together! you 2 are great.
H2O Renjin
10-09-2006, 10:30 PM
wow... that was awesome. Big fan of awesome love storys :)
Way to go!!! *Skips away to go make his* teeheeeheeee~
H2O SkywalkerX
10-09-2006, 10:34 PM
So, I was engaged to my bf of 4.5 years. Around the time Halo2 came out, he started playing it alot, and ignoring me. I got fed up with that pretty easily, so I pretty much go by the theory 'if you can't beat them, join them'. So I picked up Halo2, and made my very first GT: Neuticles (ask if you want to know what it means). I was soooo bad at the game, but he'd be at work, and I'd play and soon started to make friends. So when he got home from work, I was more occupied with my friends on Halo2 than him, which didn't go over well as you could imagine. We started having rough spots, and instead of just a time-passer, Halo2 actually became an escape for me. Soon after that, last summer, I learned about and joined the PMS clan, with my new GT: AngelsFromAbove.
This 'clan' was a whole different can of worms, cuz now I had the excuse I needed to get on for practice, and soon I got interested in the MLG scene. All the while my 'fiance' was getting incredibly jealous of the time I was not spending with him (even though he had done it to me). In October of 2005, I met H2o Soccerbear (Soccergirl PMS's H2o at the time). We started playing alot and talking, almost an instant friendship. He told me he was going to MLG LA to meet Soccergirl, and hoping they'd hit it off. I was secretly jealous, even though I was 'engaged'.
Well, things in LA didn't go as he planned, so as a good friend I talked to him through it, and we became that much closer. When he got back, we talked more, sometimes all night, and my fiance was becoming a distant thought. (But trust me, Halo2 was far from the ONLY demise of THAT relationship). In December, I went to MLG Chicago, without Jon (soccerbear) and he got jealous that I was gonna meet other guys. I told him to not worry, cuz I wasn't interested. We talked all throught MLG and became even closer.
In January, my Grandma needed an escort out to Cali (we live in Ohio), and I immediately offered, cuz Jon lives there. I arranged my trip to be for a week, I'd take her out there, and spend a week with him. He picked me up 3 hours from his house (to where my grandma was) and things were amazing. We went out, he took me to his parents house, we clicked instantly. It was to the point I wouldn't even answer my phone for my 'fiance'. So, after a week of greatness, I reluctantly returned to Ohio and ended it with my fiance. I gave my ring back (hesitantly) and told him we needed to be over. I said I had fallen in love with Jon and he was what I wanted now.
After a messy break up with him, I returned to Cali in March over my spring break for another week with Jon. This time was better than the last, and our connection was incredible. We decided he'd come to Ohio for my graduation, senior banquet, nursing pinning, and long enough for me to take my boards. He came here April 28th, and has been here ever since. He got his job transferred, and we're making a brand new life for ourselves. We have an amazing apartment, 3 wonderfu cats, a turtle, he let me get pumpkins to carve for halloween, and things with us are just amazing. I couldn't have asked for anything more.
As far as the video game part? When he first got here, we played alot. We each had a TV and XBOX set up, which made it nice. But soon we realized that we weren't spending quality time together (a downfall of my previous relationship). So we made a deal (with exceptions of course) that if we were both home together, we'd find something else to do besides video games. I get mad really easy at the game and take it out on him, and that's not fair at all. But since then, our deal has worked out. When he's working or sleeping, I play and vice versa. It's nice, and we still get gaming in together on occasion, just not frequently. Other than that... my vote is 10000% yes for gamers dating. :)
such a good story :) kind of inspires you, ya know? ;)
AngelsFromAbove
10-09-2006, 10:50 PM
ya vinx, we're together... it'll be a year in january !!!!!! (shhhhhhhhhhhhh he's gonna propose at some point i just dont know when :) :) :) )
PMSAliki
10-09-2006, 10:54 PM
Well took me forever to realize what XBL is lol! I personally think in most cases gamers should not date only cause I have had a sour taste from it. Never gave much thought to PMS and H20 but I agree people in the same division really should not date. I causes issues, I know it has on PS2 and I am sure you PC and XBOX people have seen it to. I do not feel that anyone should be restricted from dating anyone (as long as its leagal!) The world works in mysterious ways and if someone is worth giving up H20 or PMS if thats the rules than its worth it. I am PMS for life, but if Elijah Wood came along and he was H20 I would have to say PEACE OUT! He is so freaking hot. Anyways drama is dumb and venting about it though gaming is sad so ya keep it private!
PMSAliki
10-09-2006, 10:56 PM
I can't spell btw
AngelsFromAbove
10-09-2006, 10:58 PM
maybe im just freakin tired, but that confused me... i agree w/ the no dating from same divisions just cuz if a breakup happens, then who should leave? other than that... IM A BALLER
oh, and I LOVE JON!!!
KilloWertz
10-09-2006, 11:13 PM
yaaaaaaaa, about that... ima talker :D
It's all good. It was a good read. :)
AngelsFromAbove
10-09-2006, 11:23 PM
It's all good. It was a good read. :)
so. need i ask how the HE** ur from ohio but are a steelers fan?? :)
KilloWertz
10-09-2006, 11:32 PM
so. need i ask how the HE** ur from ohio but are a steelers fan?? :)
:) I used to live in PA. Even though I live in Ohio now, I still live only about an hour out of Pittsburgh. Too bad they suck this year.
PMS Suicide Girl
10-09-2006, 11:41 PM
Well, my husband I met playing video-games and its still our main form of entertainment today. During one long evening raid we started talking about music and pop-culture and other stuff (I was fairly new to the guild while he was an officer.)
After that night we started playing together all the time. He was used to playing in the A.M. but he switched to late-nite and early hours of the morning to play with me after about a month. He told everyone, "the nocturnal wench has stole my soul" lol. After about 6 months of playing together all the time and talking on the phone we decided it would be fun to meet in person, and so he drove to Wisconsin to see me. After that we started driving back and forth to visit each other every couple of months. That went on for about a year and then we couldn't bear to say goodbye anymore and got engaged, and then 5 months after that we were married. We've been married for 2 years and four months now :) We don't play EverQuest anymore (because that game sucks now) but our relationship lives on haha.
Is that romantic enough for two nerds Aliki? lol
SO THATS WHY YOU NEVER PLAY SOCOM ANYORE YOU PLAY WoW?!?!?!?!?!?! You are so busted lol
I agree with you Hate and I'm in exactly the same boat as you, except I'm not married. I met my boyfriend playing EQ (got so lame after playing it for like 2-3 years with only 1 expansion) and I'm still with him today. We talked constantly on the phone and after we talked one time for over 15+ hours straight I knew he was the one for me :p
I've been with him in a long distance (seriously, Chicago-St.Pete,FL, who does that?) for 2 years and we make it work. Thinking about it, idk how we do since I'm such an attention ***** (we all know it!!) and am constantly trying to pull him away from WoW (please don't kill me!! I just want some love!!).
Gamers should date other gamers if said gamer is willing to leave you alone as you game and vice versa. HAVE SOME UNDERSTANDING PEOPLE!
MISTR3SS
10-10-2006, 09:40 AM
I think that Gamers should date... Couple who play 2gether stay 2gether....lol.. mine and Holdem saying... You know it really up to the 2 ppl that want this.... ... at least on them rain night both of yawl can turn on your games load up the screen log on and kill each other.... lol< have a glass of wine... and talk **** to each other....
I know that playing games have brought Holdem and I alot closer..<3 my games..
If there something there between you and that someone why not try and see how it goes.... It could be something good .... it could be something bad... It what ever you and that person make of it...
r33hash
10-10-2006, 11:18 AM
I think that if you have a good enough grasp on the idea of "like" and "love", then you can date anyone you want to. If you understand the way dating works, then you should understand that dating is basically looking into a person to see if you like them enough to be more than just dating.
JennyPoo
10-10-2006, 01:31 PM
I think it dont matter who u date. As long as you both are happy.. I met my boyfriend on Halo2 about 2 years ago after meeting I moved in with him and we have been happy. No we dont play the same games no more I play Halo with my akira1125 and he plays WoW so its all about the type of person U are if you can make it work.. When we did play halo2 together it was great having him next to me to save me lol but now that hes into another game I am glad we can sit in the same room and we are always talking about each others games hes always still trying to help me.. So Good Luck to anyone cos it can work if u have faith in it!!!
H2O Xyanyde
10-10-2006, 01:38 PM
I think gamers should date... unfortunately, there just arent enough gamer girls out there! I live in Woodbridge, VA (Near Washington DC) and I have found myself left alone because I am a gamer. Its lame, but thats how it goes I guess. Same game or not, I think the perfect match for a gamer is a gamer, thats all there is to it.
Look Its a Panda
10-10-2006, 02:38 PM
I think gamers should stay locked in the cellar, avoiding contact with the outside world.
Seriously, what kind of poll is this? Isn't the answer rather obvious?
People who play games should date, and if they date people with common interest - well, that's nice then.
enyork
10-10-2006, 02:49 PM
I'm sorry for that.
PMS Rain
10-10-2006, 02:52 PM
One thing I considered is that my first gf played video games so we didn't have an issue about spending our free/alone time & so on and so forth. Others have told me video games are a stupid waste of time and you don't accomplish anything. It would irritate them that my hobby was so "useless." Does any form of entertainment accomplish anything? I suppose it depends on what entertains you, but we all need some form of fun even if it doesn't accomplish anything.
Anywho, if you're both gamers then you won't have this problem so I decree "yes, gamers should date"
Buddy H2O
10-10-2006, 03:01 PM
I think gamers should stay locked in the cellar, avoiding contact with the outside world.
Seriously, what kind of poll is this? Isn't the answer rather obvious?
People who play games should date, and if they date people with common interest - well, that's nice then.
I agree
r33hash
10-10-2006, 03:45 PM
lol. wtf is wrong with corporate?
much better, please no inappropriate comments, my creativity is running low
much better, please no inappropriate comments, my creativity is running low
lol, next time it'll be my turn and i wont be so nice :p
Rip, that cannot be! If you have no witty comments, the world will come to an end!
PEE.ESS.: I think corporate is a bot. zomg ohnoes!!!111
H2O Renjin
10-10-2006, 09:57 PM
I think gamers should date... unfortunately, there just arent enough gamer girls out there! I live in Woodbridge, VA (Near Washington DC) and I have found myself left alone because I am a gamer. Its lame, but thats how it goes I guess. Same game or not, I think the perfect match for a gamer is a gamer, thats all there is to it.
Dude, I live in rockville and like you said... Im kinda shued because I play games. I could care less but when You talk to someone and they ask you "What do you like to do"? Its just so hard to word it sometimes. I just end up saying "I'm a gamer" and thats it. lol
:D
Chilltown
10-10-2006, 10:17 PM
Hell ya Gamers should, but they should date other gamers so they know that the Games they play are first :P
PMSAliki
10-11-2006, 12:29 AM
What kind of post is this? This is an "ANYTHING GOES" post... and girls like talking about their "significant gamer" lol like "significant other" my goodness I am funny.
really? I couldn't tell.....
jk, lol.
r33hash
10-11-2006, 12:15 PM
Anytime people find out that I get to travel the country for free because of videogames, they find it pretty darn cool.
enyork
10-11-2006, 12:23 PM
lol. wtf is wrong with corporate?
I'm sorry for doing that. It was out of hand.
enyork
10-11-2006, 12:25 PM
lol, next time it'll be my turn and i wont be so nice :p
I'm sorry for that comment.
r33hash
10-11-2006, 12:58 PM
No problem. Thanks for apologizing.
x Kaiye
10-11-2006, 01:58 PM
:) if they really want to theirs nothing wrong with
CajunH2O
12-12-2006, 06:18 PM
Yes gamers should date. Its a great common ground and gives you the chance to find someone not nesacerially(sp) close to you, thus opening up new oppurtunities to see new things etc. As long as there is common ground other than "we both game". I dont wanna jump the gun but this week I started talking to an awesome gamer grrl and theres more than just the games we play in common. What will happen? Who knows but Im smiling for the first time ina while thanx to her :D It just goes to prove the point that good things can come from unexpected places.BUt the privacy thing Im kinda torn on....if something clicks, it clicks ya know? But problems should be dealt with on side I agree.
duuuuude. old thread man.
CajunH2O
12-12-2006, 06:24 PM
Lol I know but hey why not refresh it? lol
Wafer
12-12-2006, 06:41 PM
hehehe i say when it comes to love and dating some one, give every one and any one a chance, you cant just go aorund and wait for a persont to come around whre you live, chances are that your going to find them some where els, why not on a game, screw "e harmony" heheh "xbox live" hehehehe, i say give it a chance dont loook back and always be happy and positive heheehh wooooo!! .....*scratches head* but thats just me heheheheh im just a little fox dont mind me hehehe *scurries off*
CajunH2O
12-12-2006, 06:44 PM
YEah, and I forgot to add, about the drama following ppl in a community like this(if any). I think communities such as this are a great way to meet really great people, and honestly if (any) drama stays out of the "public" knowledge of the community then its all good. No rules or guidelines should be set on the relationship(or possibility thereof. If both parties are mature this wont be an issue:D
I'm dating a gamer. Even though I can't play the game we play together anymore. It's my violent nature that draws him to me. :)
r33hash
12-13-2006, 10:17 AM
The essence of gaming, especially online, creates a new foundation for meeting interesting people who might be attractive in ways beyond physical appearance. Instead of judging someone immediately when we seem them, we are presented with their personality and their attitude from the get go. This allows couples to create bonds through a certain videogame, which then branches into other interests, thus creating a strong friendship. Sometimes, this friendship might branch further into a more valuable, emotional bond. Then, upon finally meeting each other, both will more than likely already possess instant gratification with each other.
Of course, meeting someone online also means that there is more than likely a distance between you two that may hinder a relationship. But, in some cases, this boundry is viewed as miniscule and mostly meaningless, because of the bond felt between the two people.
CajunH2O
12-13-2006, 12:58 PM
The essence of gaming, especially online, creates a new foundation for meeting interesting people who might be attractive in ways beyond physical appearance. Instead of judging someone immediately when we seem them, we are presented with their personality and their attitude from the get go. This allows couples to create bonds through a certain videogame, which then branches into other interests, thus creating a strong friendship. Sometimes, this friendship might branch further into a more valuable, emotional bond. Then, upon finally meeting each other, both will more than likely already possess instant gratification with each other.
Of course, meeting someone online also means that there is more than likely a distance between you two that may hinder a relationship. But, in some cases, this boundry is viewed as miniscule and mostly meaningless, because of the bond felt between the two people.
Wow...Well said dude
I completely agree hash. I have never let distance get between any relationship I've had. To me, that only makes the bond stronger.
CajunH2O
12-13-2006, 06:51 PM
yes indeed
PMS Genevieve
12-13-2006, 09:41 PM
Absolutely!!! But as many others have stated, that shouldn't be the ONLY reason they date.....
I recently had my heart broken by the man of my dreams........who happened to be a hardcore gamer. But again, we had many, many other things in common other than gaming............
Still sad about it.
I'm not sure about others on here, but I do have a little trouble sometimes dating someone who doesn't play. It's hard for someone who doesn't to understand the excitement you feel when a game you've been waiting for finally drops, or when you've finally beat that boss you've been struggling with, or when you have a multiplayer game scheduled.......a few of the guys I've been talking to lately are pretty much like "Huh??" or "Uhhh, I gave up gaming when I was a kid" or (this one just makes me cringe!!) Yeah, PlayStation 360 is pretty cool.....lol.
Ugh dang. This has brought back some memories of me ex. :( .
I've never heard that, but if I do, I would definately never talk to that person ever again. I have the same problem with some of my friends, because about half of them don't game like I do. When I get excited about something and talk about it like I'm talking to someone who actually would understand me, I either get a blank stare or I'm ignored before I'm even done talking. It's good to have a significant other who actually understands what you're talking about and shares that same interest.
Innocent
12-14-2006, 12:15 AM
Yes they should. :) My boyfriend and I have a great relationship, and all we do is play games. (with the exception of work) Playing on the same tv sucks, and can be very stressful but nothing is better than having your own setup and playing together. Its awesome.
polka. I agree. I go to work and tell some female friends there "OMG I got my 40 in Team Slayer!" and they just blink at me and go "team what? Whats That?" Then when it comes to my boyfriend, all I got to do is simply describe a cool way I pwnd someone and he will know exactly what I'm talking about and actually BE interested. Gaming is a big part of my life, and I dont know what I'd do if I wasnt able to share that with my boyfriend.
WearyGamer
12-14-2006, 07:43 PM
nicely said shoot