Alcoholics

[Archer]

Why do ppl become alcoholics? :confused:

My sister has been 1 for some many years now i've forgotten how long and she is now putting her 2 children in danger as the solical services might be taking then away from her!!....She just don't want to help herself or her children it makes my blood boil with anger :mad: She has just rung me telling me that i have to say that if they do end up taking the children off her i will say i will look after them (which i would no questions asked) when they go to court to make them award of court...This has been going on for years now and she still blames everyone else around her and not take responsablility for herself and her drinking...Just need to get this off my chest as i think i about to explode :eek: .

[r33hash]

My friends always call me an alcoholic, but merely as a joke.

Truth be told, they drink as much as I do.

I'm sorry to hear about your sister. Some people claim that Alcoholism is a disease, rather than an addiction. I can see either side of that arguement. But I think that some people are just mentally more weak than others, and when they are exposed to something such as alcohol, they cannot withold themselves from developing an addiction. Its almost like they become addicted after the first drink ever taken.

[Look Its a Panda]

I think most people with an unhealthy addiction like this doesn't want help, and the first step is to get them to realize that they got a problem. Blaming everyone else for their mistakes is pretty much a cowards excuse.
If this has been going on for years, you really need to help her control this, if social services are about to take her kids, it's apparent that this have gone way too far already.

http://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org/

[MuseChick]

my best friends mum is an alcoholic, and because i've known her for ages i've seen what it's done to her, i know she hates it, but in a way it's made her really independant.

Some people just don't wanna admit to things...and for people that see them falling apart it's really heartbreaking and frustrating.

Best of luck x

[Catalina DSO]

I'm sorry to read about your sister. I know this is a very difficult thing not only for her and her kids but for you as well. I grew up determined that I would not drink alcoholic beverages (and I don't) because I watched three on my uncles who were alcoholics. I knew I didn't want to be like them.........I am happy to say though that they have all since admitted they have a problem and sought help. It took a long time though.

I hope your sister will come to that realization soon and seek help too, for her sake especially but also for her kids and you too.

[H2O Ninjitstu]

Sorry to hear that Archer :( , thats crazy i hope the situation is resolved soon.

As for why people are/become alcoholics...well IMO its just our society's culture telling us to keep drinking and be stupid so as not to be aware of real issues. I like a drink now and then but usually within moderation....sometimes I want to be hammered. The downside is we are far more easily controlled when we are drunk and yet not in control of ourselves; which is why this legal drug is responsible for more incidents/deaths each year than anything else.

/rant

[Archer]

Well they have told my mum that ahe has to take care of her daugthers children untill she gets herself sorted out as they will diff be taken into care....I hope this is the kick up the but she needs to stop the drink and get her life back but knowing my sister it won't faze her and she will just think that everything is alright coz my mums got the child...its so unfair to us and the kids...

[Kal-El]

My mom's ex BF was and still is an alcoholic.

If child services does take her children away, then you (or someone of your family) can ask to get custody of them (it's 100 times better than them going to some foster home). Then when she goes to court and tells the judge she wants them back, he'll probably force her to go to "AA" or something similar for x amount of months or until completion of the AA program (it's 12 steps that can take as long as 1 year or 2 to complete). After that she'll have to go back to court prove to the judge that she's completed the program and is better now. Child services will also evaluate the situation and give their recommendation to the court.

If she gets her children back at that point, there will be follow up interview and/or surprise inspections by the court and child services for 6 months to a year. Just to check if things are going well.

It's a long road ahead, but it's probably for the best. It's maybe the only way to snap your sister out of the destructive path of alcoholism.

Good luck. Tough times might be ahead, but it's all for the better. :)

[Kasumi Chan PMS]

Hey, Archer and other ladies. I'm sorry to hear you have relative and friends close to you who are destroying themselves with alcohol/drugs. I've been in AA and sober for almost six years now, and have a actively alcoholic mother so I do understand. May I suggest finding some Al-Anon meetings in your area? They are a great non-profit support group, like AA that helps families and friends of alcoholics. You can find meetings near you at http://al-anon.org/. Good luck.

[x Kaiye]

im reallly sorry to here that