Heart broken...again, will it ever end?

[SuperSaiyan4]

I must be cursed for I have never been with anyone and when I get close they break my heart and say 'lets be just friends'...or they just dump me.

Its 4 now the 4th being just today, met this amazing girl on Xbox Live in the UK we both liked each other a lot, talked for a few months were amazed on similar interests we had etc...Then recently she said she was doing all different hours of work as she needed the money to pay for bills and also to meet me...
I offered money I even said I could come meet her...

After all the love and kindness that built up inside me as before was shattered with a text message saying that her life was hectic and couldnt meet up not even later on and to 'call it a day' upon which I found she meant exactly that as in forget it, and there she said 'lets just be friends'.

For why do such things happen to the nice guys out there in the world? The ones that are pure, gentle and kind at heart that only think of others before them are left weeping in sadness for they are liked but never loved.

As I type this sorrowful post I weep and sigh, for I truely am left sadened once again...I feel I just needed to express myself for I know there are some very good people on here and perhaps I may find some comfort...if there is such a thing.

Maybe its my destiny to never be with anyone, I want someone close to me someone special, perhaps there really isnt anyone out there for me...

[Look Its a Panda]

Keep mopeing. Chicks dig that.
Let bygones be bygones, and learn from any potensial mistakes.

[x SexyPink x]

shoulda showed her ur ss4 stage

[InSaNe1]

Sorry to hear of your troubles. I hope you feel better :\

[SuperSaiyan4]

shoulda showed her ur ss4 stage

Haha true very true - that sure did bring a smile to my face.

No one likes to mope on purpose but some of us have softer hearts than others...we are all different at the end of the day :(

[Nokarot]

Being in H2O taught me this more then anything.

I think any h2o can and will admit that they have once upon a time, or still do, crush on a girl in PMS. Its a natural attraction, guys and girls who both play games like eachother.

Theres people I play with right now that I still crush on, but quite frankly, none of their friendships is worth the risk of losing for a relationship. I dont know what I'd do without these people, and I wouldn't trade what I have now for anything in the world.

Can you say the same about this girl? Quite honestly, it doesn't sound like she completely ditched you, as much as she wants to be just friends. If you can't understand that, then I'd look within yourself to find the problem. If you take "lets just be friends" as an insult, sorry, but I think it was for the best.

[SuperSaiyan4]

The girls initially want to be with me i.e. be my girlfriend and are like 'I love you' etc and I say the same and am really happy, I even met 2 of the 4 in person then they just suddenly turn around and say 'lets just be friends' Its just pretty shocking for me after I have poured my heart out to them.

In all fairness I think they have just been 'leading' me along a heart breaking path, One min I am with someone (well I think I am) then next its like 'Oh lets be friends'

I have girl gamer friends on my list thats cool they are friends but is it wrong for me to actually be with someone? :(

[Nokarot]

Its wrong if you can't take what you got and wait for the right person. The simple fact that you've met so many people and had that kind of interest means that theres plenty more out there.. just gotta wait for the right 1, and take the others as friends until then.

[SuperSaiyan4]

Ok :) I sometimes wish I could turn into a Super Saiyan and let out my rage lol.

[oXKryptoniteXo]

Ok :) I sometimes wish I could turn into a Super Saiyan and let out my rage lol.

Oh dont we all.

[SuperSaiyan4]

Sometimes its nice to be able to talk about such things I guess, I know on Xbox Live in the old days I would have such talks with others especially a girl who asked me to tell his boyfriend that she has to dump him and cried doing so with her new guy IN THE ROOM and what made it worse the guy she was dumping knew the other guy!!

Love is messed up! :(

[Limafoxtrot]

The girls initially want to be with me i.e. be my girlfriend and are like 'I love you' etc and I say the same and am really happy, I even met 2 of the 4 in person then they just suddenly turn around and say 'lets just be friends' Its just pretty shocking for me after I have poured my heart out to them.

In all fairness I think they have just been 'leading' me along a heart breaking path, One min I am with someone (well I think I am) then next its like 'Oh lets be friends'

I have girl gamer friends on my list thats cool they are friends but is it wrong for me to actually be with someone? :(I am sorry you're sad - and I don't ant to sound mean 9but it might) The kind of stuff I am reading that you seem to be looking for - you won't find that kind of connection over live or the internet - that kind of bond develops from personal interaction.

Don't go into live looking to meet girls or for a girl friend - go in looking to make gaming friends. Some may be girls, some may be guys. And as someone else posted - you may even get a crush on a girl over Live - but realize it is just that - a crush (nothing wrong with it), and unless you know each other and do stuff in the real world - nothing serious is going to develop. Enjoy the friendly flirtaious banter and be a good friend. But it probably won't ever go past that.

[oXKryptoniteXo]

I agree with lima
Nothing will work over live or online anything unless you can see each other face to face and actually be with each other.
well said lima.

[SuperSaiyan4]

Well we chatted all the time, over MSN and mobile phone - she gave me both numbers and even her home adress to which I sent some nice gifts :)

We had a lot in common but oh well I mean where else to meet a girl to fit your requirements such as mine other than Online? I love games she does too...along with other interests fitted perfectly.

I know there are others that have found love online and on Xbox Live it has worked out for them, I have a girl on my friends list I have had for like 3+yrs now and she met this guy on Live and have been together since I met her...

[oXKryptoniteXo]

Well i guess it just depends on the people really but yeah things can work out over xbl but the only ones i have seen is where my friends boyfriend over xbl moved to her and now they are together and have been for a while now.

[Limafoxtrot]

I have to agreee with Kryptonite - I think success from an online realtionship is the exception - not the norm. Can it work - yes, most often it does not. The only ones I've seen last for any length of time the people involved already sort of knew eachother like same school, work or some other connection where it shifted from a online relationship to one that was offline as well.

Live can't subsitiute for the personal interaction needed to make a realtionship work. It might can introduce you, but you need face time to really get to know people. So much can be hidden without those nonverbal tips.

As for where to meet - anywhere you come into contact with people really - school, work, place you go to often. There is no magic formula though (I wish I had one - I could be rich!!!) so mostly you just gotta keep trying.