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H2O SkywalkerX
08-24-2006, 05:11 PM
I didn't want to put this in the normal anything goes, just cause i dont want it to be known by everyone..

But, i'm going to tell who ever reads this a story..it's not fake, it's about me. and i want to know what i should do..

ok, my girlfriend of 1 year (yes just to clarify, it is an xbox live relationship, but i see it more than that), went off to camp for the summer. i promised her that i wouldn't leave her, and nothing would happen. now everyone is going to see me in a different way, but this is vital. so summer starts, and i start to like someone else. me and my girlfriend were drifting apart, not being able to talk and all of that jazz. so this other girl starts to like me, i like her. yes, at the beginning of august, i asked her to be with me. we had been going out for a few days and my (ex)girlfriend came back and i told her..she was heart broken of course..then i did a ****ty thing, i asked her to wait for me. she said yes i still love you and i love her still. so maybe a day later she has a girlfriend (yes she is bi), so i break down and tell her how i feel about her, how i realized im in love with her, so she broke up with her girlfriend. the next day i go to break up with the other girl...and i couldn't do it...she told me about all the times my girlfriend of 1 year has hurt me and cheated on me and all that..so i made the decision to stay with this new girl.

i told my ex that, and she broke down again. then i asked her to wait for me, just one month, and i promised her i would be back with her. i had her listen to the song on my myspace (www.myspace.com/luketheman). and i told her that's how i felt about her. she said ok, one month and then we can be together. she told me she loved me, and i told her i loved her. then just 2 days later. i find out she has a boyfriend..not on xbox either...i cried...again..to her, explaining that she is my only one, and i can feel it, i told her i'm going to break up with the other girl...so next day i did. i broke up with her and hurt her. then i tell my girl of 1 year i did. we talked, and i was so effing happy, we just talked forever. she also vented about all the things that made her unhappy when we were together, i told her i wouldnt do those things anymore, that i have changed. then i asked her..when will i be yours again? she said tomorrow...

next day, i asked her..she said "i dont know, i dont know anymore" and with the help of a 3rd party (her one ex-girlfriend i told you about) she changed her mind, and flipped it on me, she told ME to wait. that was 3 days ago. since then, even though we aren't together technically..we still act like it, we say all the things we usually say, do the things we usually do, the only thing that isn't the same, is the boyfriend girlfriend title. and the only reason i have been happy these past few weeks is because of her. and i know i have made her happier these past few days then really ever in our relationship, i know that's bad...but it's true...and let me tell you something else..

the same thing that is happening right now, has happened to me before. i was with a girl, she told me to wait for her, she promised to be back to me. we still acted like we were going out though, we talked the same way to each other, we did the same things, we just didn't have the title of boyfriend girlfriend. and well, she screwed me over, and broke my heart, in fact, that was the first time i ever cut myself.
and i am afraid that this situation i am right now with the current girl, will turn nasty, because i love her so much, and i realized that she is my only one. and the only time i am happy is when i'm talking to her. when i'm sad, it's because i'm not talking to her.

i dont know what to do...whoever reads this, i <3 you, because it's long...and yeah...if anyone has any other questions, i will tell you anything..

nighthawksw
09-05-2006, 12:46 AM
Hey man.
I read the whole thing..and i'll give it to you soft, but if you want a blunt version, just PM me.
Even though you got screwed over before, this is a new girl. You did it to her, and she's still talking to you. She deserves the favor returned, have some faith in her. She's a different person, and even if it happened once with somebody else, it could be different with her. IF you're afraid, be more honest with her. Tell her what you're thinking and feeling. She may think you're a pansy, but if so she's not the one. Say what you feel you need to, and if she cares, she'll respond to you at halfway, with her own feelings and thoughts. Need to know what she's thinking about concerning the other guy? just ask. Be honest with each other, give your guys' trust and relationship a change to grow.

Honestly, it could break from the challenge...but if so, you can either try to repair it or walk away. You make the final decisions, you'll run the risks...but nomatter what happens, it'll give you a chance to reflect; search yourself if you did anything wrong, HONESTLY. Could you have done anything differently? Have you tried that before? Learn from your mistakes, and grow from them. But before you can learn, you have to take risks.

I wish you luck, dude.