View Full Version : I'm Writing a Book - HELP NEEDED!
PMS Aloma
10-21-2008, 12:35 PM
Hey everyone!
I am writing a book about what girls ACTUALLY want versus what guys think we want. So, I need help.
GIRLS: Can you please tell me the brutal honest truth about what you REALLY want from guys... everything in every situation.
GUYS: Can you please tell me what YOU think girls want. Tell me things that girls have told you they want, how you handled that information, and how they reacted. As well, tell me things you've come up with yourself based on how girls act, or brainstorming with your buddies. Just, when you write what you think girls want, let me know how you came to that conclusion (Did a girl tell you, your buddies, a book, your own thoughts, etc.)
IMPORTANT: It's very important that you don't base what you say off of what they people before you have said. For example: If you thought girls liked their hands slammed in doors, and the girl who posted before you said we don't, then don't change your post to suit what you've read. Post what you think. And if anyone is too shy to post what they think, you can always Private Message me. Anything sent to me privately will still be osed obviously, but your name will be anonymous. Also, if you don't mind being quoted in my book, just put *quoteable* at the end of your message, and I'll PM you to let you know if I'm using it, and to ask for your first name if I don't already know it.
Thank you guys soooo much! This is a long process and I thank all of you in helping me!
Looking forward to comments... :)
PMS BellaBklyn
10-21-2008, 01:29 PM
what if you're a lesbian lol...will there be any angle of that in the book? probably not haha but a valid question as i can't answer the question otherwise!
PMS Aloma
10-21-2008, 04:22 PM
Didn't really consider it... but if there was enough feedback from that particular 'angle', then definitely.
It would be interesting how girls think and see whether or not they project their own wants onto their relationship.
So if you have feedback, then please do! :)
Preferably commentary is submitted via pm or e-mail, as not to bias other respondents here.
And this isn't exactly the most scientific research method, but i'll PM you for posterity sake :x
Wifey
10-21-2008, 04:36 PM
what if you're a lesbian lol...will there be any angle of that in the book? probably not haha but a valid question as i can't answer the question otherwise!
lol <3 bellanotte for being the exception...this made me giggle :mvgiggle:
H2O Creation
10-21-2008, 07:10 PM
this could be a start for you
http://www.whatwewomenwant.org/male_aggression.html
and i'm sure there's a few books out there with the similar subject. you should read a few to help you with your research... :)
H2O Commando
10-21-2008, 08:44 PM
I write short World War 2 stories in my free time. I actually have enough to turn it into a book xD Anyway I would think a girl wants a guy who's nice, sweet, and is a musician. That's just SOME girls. Some like it opposite....
Stiletto
10-21-2008, 08:44 PM
I'm going to be completely open and honest on this subject and give my opinion right here.
What I Want From A Guy:
*I want him to refer to me as beautiful.... not "hot". The first word is respectable and makes you feel like you're being held in higher regard. When I'm called "hot" by a guy, I'm not sure why it irks me, but it does.
*I want him to remember certain special days, like the first day we met.
*When he lies (because everyone, men and women, do it once in a while), I want him to admit that he did it. It takes a real man to admit when he's done something wrong.
*I want him to miss me for no particular reason.
*I want him to open doors for me. It's simple, but guys, WE NOTICE IT. And we do appreciate it because of your thoughtful nature.
Plain and simple, I just want to be treated like a lady. He should'nt have hidden motive behind it either. I want to be respected, in private and in public.
I don't believe chivalry is dead; I think it's just taking a long nap.
PoopSama
10-21-2008, 11:02 PM
:mvagree:
PMS Aloma
10-22-2008, 01:37 AM
Oh Rip... ilu haha Thank you for amusing me.
I know it isn't scientific... but I want it to be more like from a real point of view, no fairytales and stuff like that (unless that's what girls want) lol
I want to compare the answers of different age groups, different lifestyles, etc. So I figured starting with a bunch of people from the gaming community would be a good start...
Wifey
10-23-2008, 10:05 AM
Guys think girls are so confusing but it's always the smallest most littlest things that we appriciate! i love getting flowers for no reason...i love when my husband tells me im beautiful or tells me he loves me randomly...i love when my husband opens the door for me...i love when my husband just plays with my hair when we are watching TV or rubs my neck after a long day at work! It's always the little things that count guys! Leaving little notes around the house...stuff like that. Men always think they have to buy big expensive things...yea that stuffs nice and all but the little things mean more.
and if a girl needs you to buy her those big expensive things, then shes not in it for love...she's in it for money!
PMS BellaBklyn
10-23-2008, 11:37 AM
lol <3 bellanotte for being the exception...this made me giggle :mvgiggle:
lol thank you! i wanted to participate haha
PMS BellaBklyn
10-23-2008, 12:19 PM
Hmm, where do I start? I want exactly what I give and I'm a hopeless romantic so if that stuff makes you "puke" you might not want to read any further lol. So, in a girl, I want...
Trust. I want someone secure enough within themselves to trust that I won't cheat on them or do anything to purposely hurt them. Everyone makes mistakes and I'd want her to trust that I'd admit mine if/when I make them. I've had crazy jealous girlfriends before and, through no fault of my own, I was accused 24/7 of cheating, dealt with constant prying and accusations, etc. I'm with you for a reason-if I wanted to be with someone else I would be. And I don't condone cheating, end of story lol.
Honesty. As previously mentioned, everyone lies but when it comes down to it, that can only make things worse. I want a girl to be completely honest with me in anything. Tell me if something's bothering you and be honest about it. I'm not a mind reader and it won't hurt my feelings, just be honest.
Communication: Both listening and telling. You have to really listen to me. Don't just nod your head and say "yeah" a lot. Remember things I tell you and make reference to them if given the situation. Always let me know how you feel. If I do anything that drives you nuts, let me know. If you want to try something new but you think I'll think you're silly for it, don't be afraid. I think Madonna said it best: "Express yourself" lol.
Humor: You HAVE to have a sense of humor and don't take things to heart. I'm very sarcastic and need someone who can laugh at themselves and also at me. :)
Randomness: Saying something when it's not expected, doing something when it's not necessary. Random sweet things are always a plus. There's nothing better than giving/getting a little something for no reason at all. And homemade things are the best. :)
Spontaneity: This is HUGE for me. I'm very big on living and acting on how you feel at the exact moment you feel it. Maybe that's the Buddhist in me haha but I've always been that way. I don't need to have someone do things as crazy as I do when it comes to this but understand me when I do it and just go with it.
Affection: I'm very affectionate and need someone just as affectionate. Maybe not as affectionate but at least someone who can put up with me being that way. I'm a giver and sometimes it can be too much. Deal with it lol.
Sillyness: I'm a big kid at heart and need someone who doesn't mind if I act like I'm 12 years old sometimes.
Respect: Respect me enough to consider my feelings when you act on things. Know that we'll get into arguments and fights but respect me enough to not do or say things to purposely hurt my feelings during these arguments. I won't do it to you, so don't do it to me. I'm an adult and if you can't argue like an adult and you have to be childish about it then peace out.
Everything lol: Love-I don't take this lightly and don't throw these words around. Once I say it, I mean it and you'll hear it a lot. But it takes me a while to even get to this point, but when I do, man oh man lol. I need someone to always make me feel loved (and accept my love in return), whether it be with a look or a touch. Someone that still makes me a little nervous when we go out and they look at me "that" way. Someone who will always stimulate my mind and challenge me to do better but not give up on me when I fail. Someone who will support me in whatever decisions I make in life whether it be right or wrong. Someone who will always always make me feel beautiful. Someone who makes me not even want to blink cause I'd feel as though I'd miss too much. I want it all, I want everything. And damnit ladies WE DESERVE IT!!! LOL!
Wifey
10-23-2008, 01:12 PM
Hmm, where do I start? I want exactly what I give and I'm a hopeless romantic so if that stuff makes you "puke" you might not want to read any further lol. So, in a girl, I want...
Trust. I want someone secure enough within themselves to trust that I won't cheat on them or do anything to purposely hurt them. Everyone makes mistakes and I'd want her to trust that I'd admit mine if/when I make them. I've had crazy jealous girlfriends before and, through no fault of my own, I was accused 24/7 of cheating, dealt with constant prying and accusations, etc. I'm with you for a reason-if I wanted to be with someone else I would be. And I don't condone cheating, end of story lol.
Honesty. As previously mentioned, everyone lies but when it comes down to it, that can only make things worse. I want a girl to be completely honest with me in anything. Tell me if something's bothering you and be honest about it. I'm not a mind reader and it won't hurt my feelings, just be honest.
Communication: Both listening and telling. You have to really listen to me. Don't just nod your head and say "yeah" a lot. Remember things I tell you and make reference to them if given the situation. Always let me know how you feel. If I do anything that drives you nuts, let me know. If you want to try something new but you think I'll think you're silly for it, don't be afraid. I think Madonna said it best: "Express yourself" lol.
Humor: You HAVE to have a sense of humor and don't take things to heart. I'm very sarcastic and need someone who can laugh at themselves and also at me. :)
Randomness: Saying something when it's not expected, doing something when it's not necessary. Random sweet things are always a plus. There's nothing better than giving/getting a little something for no reason at all. And homemade things are the best. :)
Spontaneity: This is HUGE for me. I'm very big on living and acting on how you feel at the exact moment you feel it. Maybe that's the Buddhist in me haha but I've always been that way. I don't need to have someone do things as crazy as I do when it comes to this but understand me when I do it and just go with it.
Affection: I'm very affectionate and need someone just as affectionate. Maybe not as affectionate but at least someone who can put up with me being that way. I'm a giver and sometimes it can be too much. Deal with it lol.
Sillyness: I'm a big kid at heart and need someone who doesn't mind if I act like I'm 12 years old sometimes.
Respect: Respect me enough to consider my feelings when you act on things. Know that we'll get into arguments and fights but respect me enough to not do or say things to purposely hurt my feelings during these arguments. I won't do it to you, so don't do it to me. I'm an adult and if you can't argue like an adult and you have to be childish about it then peace out.
Everything lol: Love-I don't take this lightly and don't throw these words around. Once I say it, I mean it and you'll hear it a lot. But it takes me a while to even get to this point, but when I do, man oh man lol. I need someone to always make me feel loved (and accept my love in return), whether it be with a look or a touch. Someone that still makes me a little nervous when we go out and they look at me "that" way. Someone who will always stimulate my mind and challenge me to do better but not give up on me when I fail. Someone who will support me in whatever decisions I make in life whether it be right or wrong. Someone who will always always make me feel beautiful. Someone who makes me not even want to blink cause I'd feel as though I'd miss too much. I want it all, I want everything. And damnit ladies WE DESERVE IT!!! LOL!
and this is why some women are lesbians lol
will u marry me bellanotte?!?!?
haha :mvgiggle:
but seriously everything you said i think EVERY woman can relate to and say "yup that sums it up!" lol
CrazyLSU
10-23-2008, 01:21 PM
I will have to get back to ya on this one Aloma. Cause well the younger the girl the harder to figure out they are and the older they get the more you have figure out with the same difficulty.
PMS BellaBklyn
10-23-2008, 01:54 PM
and this is why some women are lesbians lol
will u marry me bellanotte?!?!?
haha :mvgiggle:
but seriously everything you said i think EVERY woman can relate to and say "yup that sums it up!" lol
lmao <3
KilloWertz
10-23-2008, 04:00 PM
For a guy's perspective, I could help you if I could find a way for you to talk to Ludacris. He thinks he knows what girls like. Alas, I can't, so I've got nothing. Sorry. Good luck though. :)
I'm still convinced women don't actually know what they want. They want a nice guy, then get bored with them and go after the 'exciting' guys who treat em like crap. And thus the cycle continues :x (At least with the under 25 crowd)
CrazyLSU
10-23-2008, 04:14 PM
I'm still convinced women don't actually know what they want. They want a nice guy, then get bored with them and go after the 'exciting' guys who treat em like crap. And thus the cycle continues :x (At least with the under 25 crowd)
perfectly put and dead on!!! It is so the truth
KilloWertz
10-23-2008, 04:15 PM
I'm still convinced women don't actually know what they want. They want a nice guy, then get bored with them and go after the 'exciting' guys who treat em like crap. And thus the cycle continues :x (At least with the under 25 crowd)
No offense to the girls, but you are absolutely right, Rip. It's not just the under 25 crowd though.
No offense to the girls, but you are absolutely right, Rip. It's not just the under 25 crowd though.
Well..shush....there was a glimmer of hope that the situation would improve with age and maturity, leave me that hope :p
KilloWertz
10-23-2008, 04:31 PM
Well..shush....there was a glimmer of hope that the situation would improve with age and maturity, leave me that hope :p
Lol, sorry Rip. There's always hope. :)
Wifey
10-23-2008, 04:42 PM
hey guys be nice! not all girls are exactly the same! you cant just group all girls in the same group...every person is different! that's like us saying "all men are pigs!" thats not true, i know some men who are absolute NEAT freaks! so you cant just lump every female in the word under one assumption...you'll never get anywhere with girls with that attitude!
read what Bellanotte posted....that is a sum up of what basically EVERY girl wants! even though she was talking about another girl...it's still the same! love is the same no matter what your sexual preference is. every guy should print that out and keep it in there wallet as a reference lol :mvgiggle:
im a living example of a girl who never went for the bad guy...they never interested me! i have ALWAYS wanted to be treated GOOD lol if a girl has to be with a guy who treats her like crap then there is something wrong with her mentally!
PMS Aloma
10-23-2008, 04:59 PM
Everyone is being VERY helpful! You have NO IDEA how much this is helping me. It's good to see the difference between what girls say they want vs. what guys think we want vs. what we actually get. Hopefully people keep replying to this topic though, or this book will be like 5 pages long lmBo.
PMS Aloma
10-23-2008, 05:01 PM
PS - I think everyone is different, and when the dudes say chick are impossible, let them keep thinking that... no biased ;) lol
And girls... reply more!!! lol
KilloWertz
10-23-2008, 05:10 PM
hey guys be nice! not all girls are exactly the same! you cant just group all girls in the same group...every person is different! that's like us saying "all men are pigs!" thats not true, i know some men who are absolute NEAT freaks! so you cant just lump every female in the word under one assumption...you'll never get anywhere with girls with that attitude!
read what Bellanotte posted....that is a sum up of what basically EVERY girl wants! even though she was talking about another girl...it's still the same! love is the same no matter what your sexual preference is. every guy should print that out and keep it in there wallet as a reference lol :mvgiggle:
im a living example of a girl who never went for the bad guy...they never interested me! i have ALWAYS wanted to be treated GOOD lol if a girl has to be with a guy who treats her like crap then there is something wrong with her mentally!
I know not all of them are that way, but it seems like a lot are. I didn't mean to seem like I was hating on all girls. :)
hey guys be nice! not all girls are exactly the same! you cant just group all girls in the same group...every person is different! that's like us saying "all men are pigs!" thats not true, i know some men who are absolute NEAT freaks! so you cant just lump every female in the word under one assumption...you'll never get anywhere with girls with that attitude!
read what Bellanotte posted....that is a sum up of what basically EVERY girl wants! even though she was talking about another girl...it's still the same! love is the same no matter what your sexual preference is. every guy should print that out and keep it in there wallet as a reference lol :mvgiggle:
im a living example of a girl who never went for the bad guy...they never interested me! i have ALWAYS wanted to be treated GOOD lol if a girl has to be with a guy who treats her like crap then there is something wrong with her mentally!
I just happen to be cynical ;)
But here's the question - if you do actually appreciate being treated nice, how do you prevent getting bored if the guy is nice all the time?
Stiletto
10-23-2008, 07:44 PM
I'm 24 years old, and been with guys who were completely bad for me, and I continue to do it. I don't just sit here and think to myself, "Dude, I've GOT to get a guy that treats me like crap." It just doesn't happen. I adore the guys that treat me respectfully. I end up with the bad guys because they ACT like good guys in order to win a girl's trust. So in the long run, it makes the real good guys look like bad guys. It's alot of confusion and distrust on my part.
A quick story: I was engaged to a guy who I dated for 2 years. We never had a single fight or breakup. As far as I knew, it was perfect. I loved him with all of my heart. I caught him having interactions with another girl 2 weeks before the wedding. Completely ripped my heart in two.
Basically, men, we don't always go for the bad guys. Sometimes it's from no fault of our own.
PMS BellaBklyn
10-23-2008, 07:46 PM
or maybe it's just that men.dont.listen. didnt you see...we want a little bit of EVERYTHING! ::evil laugh:: lol
KilloWertz
10-23-2008, 07:54 PM
or maybe it's just that men.dont.listen. didnt you see...we want a little bit of EVERYTHING! ::evil laugh:: lol
Uh? What? I didn't catch that. ;) Just messing with you... lol
CrazyLSU
10-23-2008, 10:47 PM
or maybe it's just that men.dont.listen. didnt you see...we want a little bit of EVERYTHING! ::evil laugh:: lol
ok even if we dont listen that doesnt change the fact that women change their minds so much and us men are supposed to keep up with that with no prior notice of yall changing your mind.
Wifey
10-24-2008, 09:56 AM
I know not all of them are that way, but it seems like a lot are. I didn't mean to seem like I was hating on all girls. :)
we know hun! lol nobody in this thread is hating on anyone...we are all just simply discussing things :)
I just happen to be cynical ;)
But here's the question - if you do actually appreciate being treated nice, how do you prevent getting bored if the guy is nice all the time?
why would any girl in their right mind get bored if a guy is nice all the time? i would love it if my husband was nice all the time lol he's nice MOST of the time but everyone has their bad days! Never in a million years would i trade my nice guy for a guy who treats me like crap...never EVER! who would want to fight with their significant other? it's not fun to do that! who would want to be treated like crap? i think you guys have a VERY bad misunderstanding of what girls want. you think girls want the bad guys...but if you think about it...the bad guys are always nice AT FIRST and then they turn mean! a girl wouldnt choose to be with a mean person...they just start out nice and then they turn into a jerk after being with them for awhile. then thats when they loose the girl. Every girl wants a guy to make her feel special and make her laugh and make her feel beautiful...not like a piece of crap! thats such a bad stereotype of girls.
ok even if we dont listen that doesnt change the fact that women change their minds so much and us men are supposed to keep up with that with no prior notice of yall changing your mind.
not all women change their mind alot. you guys are taking bad experiences you may have heard about or experienced and assuming that all women are like that. give me one example of what a woman would continually change her mind about?!?!?
It's never good to assume that everything that is the same is exactly alike!!!!
Exp: You see a Pitt Bull running at u and you think "OMG IT'S GUNNA KILL ME!" so you call someone to have it put to sleep...
Turns out the dog you put to sleep was a little old lady's dog and he was the sweetest dog you would have ever met. now was that fair?!?! just because you had a bad experience or heard of a bad experience with one pit bull or even a couple...doesnt mean that ALL pit bulls are mean murdering dogs!
get what im trying to say?!?!
CrazyLSU
10-24-2008, 11:20 AM
not all women change their mind alot. you guys are taking bad experiences you may have heard about or experienced and assuming that all women are like that. give me one example of what a woman would continually change her mind about?!?!?
i will give ya that. i am just going off of experience i have had in the past. My ex used to drive me nuts by doing that. Every time i thought i had her figured out she would always throw me a curve ball by totally changing her mind. Also she was really really bad about expecting me to know something that she was supposed to tell me. Then when she would ask me about it she would almost always get pissed when i was clueless!!
Wifey
10-24-2008, 11:30 AM
i will give ya that. i am just going off of experience i have had in the past. My ex used to drive me nuts by doing that. Every time i thought i had her figured out she would always throw me a curve ball by totally changing her mind. Also she was really really bad about expecting me to know something that she was supposed to tell me. Then when she would ask me about it she would almost always get pissed when i was clueless!!
and thats why she's your EX lol
no offence to her....
but to be fair both sexes do the mind reading thing lol men also expect woman to read their minds about what they want too! Men expect us to know how they like things or how they want things done. people just have to learn how to TALK and be more open with each other. A relationship is ALL about honesty!!!
Gosh i sound like Dr. Phil or something hahahaha:mvgiggle:
CrazyLSU
10-24-2008, 12:15 PM
Gosh i sound like Dr. Phil or something hahahaha:mvgiggle:
dont insult yourself now :p but yeah thats only part of why she is my ex :(
PoopSama
10-24-2008, 01:31 PM
lolz at crazy and wertz you guys should know i never change my mind i want your moms :) <3<3<3
fyi i have a bad boy i turned good.my graybush is nothing like me.i was a punkish raver girl when we met and he was a thugish douche lol.
Wifey
10-24-2008, 01:44 PM
lolz at crazy and wertz you guys should know i never change my mind i want your moms :) <3<3<3
fyi i have a bad boy i turned good.my graybush is nothing like me.i was a punkish raver girl when we met and he was a thugish douche lol.
LOL poop...a thugish douche? made me giggle!
thats the same thing with my husband and i! in high school, he was wearing uptowns & Rocca Wear (however you spell it) while i was wearing converse sneakers, my skull and crossbone studded belt and dying the ends of my hair pink lol
but i didnt change him from a bad boy...he was always sweet :)
Destroya1103
10-25-2008, 03:50 AM
some wicked sweet stuff here :)
Well...Long story short: My Sisters High school year she was in love with this guy "Brett", he acted totally cool around her and myself... their relationship was going amazing...
He actually proposed to her and then he soon after left her for NO reason.
Now: My sister is a lesbian[24 yrs old Now]. It's really nice meeting her friends. I know some of them pretty well. I really like the fact that her significant other actually likes to get to know me, they're both a great couple and I'm all for it. She actually came to me alone last year[late-ish] and asked me if I would approve of her being a lesbian and wouldn't be ashamed. I was like... "Are you kidding me? How could I ever be ashamed of you? I love you and that'll never change." After that, I became A LOT more attached to my sister. I felt better showing her my poetry and I wrote some for her lovers.
ps. If anyone wants me to PM them the poem, just ask! :D
Here's the different with your pit bull analogy Wifey -
I may be making the stereotype, but it doesn't mean i "put the dog to sleep". I assume its going to be nice first and am just so used to getting bitten that i'm cynical about it.
And trust me, being the nice guy does not work in most situations. I can't get away from it though, its like ingrained in me. I've heard the "You're a really awesome guy but I don't like you like that anymore" thing too many times, or "You're a really sweet guy, i'm sure you'll find someone perfect". For whatever reason being "nice" seems to always equal getting stuck in the friends zone even if it doesn't start out that way.
At least this is from experience.
Wifey
10-25-2008, 01:22 PM
Here's the different with your pit bull analogy Wifey -
I may be making the stereotype, but it doesn't mean i "put the dog to sleep". I assume its going to be nice first and am just so used to getting bitten that i'm cynical about it.
And trust me, being the nice guy does not work in most situations. I can't get away from it though, its like ingrained in me. I've heard the "You're a really awesome guy but I don't like you like that anymore" thing too many times, or "You're a really sweet guy, i'm sure you'll find someone perfect". For whatever reason being "nice" seems to always equal getting stuck in the friends zone even if it doesn't start out that way.
At least this is from experience.
awww Rip! i understand what you mean though. i just dont have any advice because i was never like that with guys. i always wanted the sweet guy.
CrazyLSU
10-25-2008, 01:24 PM
Rip just focus on the older crowd. Seems like the older a women gets the less they like they jackasses.
Wifey
10-25-2008, 01:30 PM
Rip just focus on the older crowd. Seems like the older a women gets the less they like they jackasses.
hey im only 21 and i dont like jerks! so it just depends on the girls personality :D
CrazyLSU
10-25-2008, 01:52 PM
But what do you define as a jerk? A "nice guy" can still be a jerk. Take me for instance :D
Wifey
10-25-2008, 02:36 PM
But what do you define as a jerk? A "nice guy" can still be a jerk. Take me for instance :D
WHAT!?! ur never a jerk!
CrazyLSU
10-25-2008, 02:39 PM
WOW i just fell out of my chair from laughing so hard!! :D
Wifey
10-25-2008, 02:41 PM
well you have never been a jerk to me
PoopSama
10-25-2008, 02:52 PM
crazy is the nicest jerk ive ever known
Wifey
10-25-2008, 03:18 PM
crazy is the nicest jerk ive ever known
lol yea he is...
i mean ur a smarta$$ Crazy but i dont think that makes u a jerk! lol
PMS Aloma
10-25-2008, 03:19 PM
Crazy is just that... crazy ;)
CrazyLSU
10-25-2008, 04:52 PM
WOW never thought i would hear all that. Too bad my ex didnt realize that before i caught her in bed
well i'm kinda glad she's your ex then at least man, nobody deserves that.
CrazyLSU
10-25-2008, 10:14 PM
you just better be glad that it wasnt you in that bed with her and the other guy rip
PMS Aloma
10-26-2008, 12:41 AM
whoa whoa whoa.... did i just read that right? did u say rip better not have been in the bed with her and the other guy - as in there were 2 guys :O :s
i'm not into that type of thing crazy.....one guy (idc how many girls - but just one guy).
CrazyLSU
10-26-2008, 09:44 AM
whoa whoa whoa.... did i just read that right? did u say rip better not have been in the bed with her and the other guy - as in there were 2 guys :O :s
Yes you read that correctly. :mvshakefist::mvshakefist:
PMS Aloma
10-26-2008, 09:50 AM
Wow crazy... I'm with Rip, I'm glad she's your ex...
I was ttlly about to write "You're a nice guy, I'm sure you'll find someone special" when I realised what you all wrote about how that makes u feel... I kind of see that line as being the "It's okay, everything will get better" of bad dating situations lol
Honestly tho Crazy... u rlly r super sweet... don't let some hoe bag ruin ur perspective on girls... we aren't all (insert word that would get filtered that begins with h, s, or w haha) :P
CrazyLSU
10-26-2008, 10:00 AM
Wow crazy... I'm with Rip, I'm glad she's your ex...
I was ttlly about to write "You're a nice guy, I'm sure you'll find someone special" when I realised what you all wrote about how that makes u feel... I kind of see that line as being the "It's okay, everything will get better" of bad dating situations lol
Honestly tho Crazy... u rlly r super sweet... don't let some hoe bag ruin ur perspective on girls... we aren't all (insert word that would get filtered that begins with h, s, or w haha) :P
LOL thanks. Yeah i am actually with Rip on that one too :mvagree: I didnt know one of the guys but one was one of my real good friends. I got so pissed after seeing that that i put him through a wall in the bedroom. That was in like September 04' after that to get out of that town i started LSU in January 05' even though i was still in High School. I havent dated since then. Skipped senior prom and almost skipped my graduation itself just so I didnt have to see them. Maybe soon I will get back into the dating scene.
Poptart
10-26-2008, 11:45 AM
What I dont want from a guy is...
1. A guy being desperate is a big turn off, it shows that you aren'tspecial and he would probably screw anything he could get, not trust worthy. I want someone I can trust.
2. When a guy whines, makes him look like a wimp, what if someone was picking on you? I would want a guy to stick up for me, shows that he cares about you.
3.I would like a guy who is open minded and not some sexist guy that thinks only one way and doesn't care about what anyone else thinks but himself, shows he is inconsiderate and you guys will most likely not be able to communicate well.
4. I want a guy who isnt a weiner! a guy that isnt up for adventure and trying new things shows he is probably a mama's boy that is to scared to hold your hand and explore the world with you, lets face it ladies, isnt that boring? guy needs to live a little to keep a relationship exciting. even if its a long distant relation and you play an online game together, go take on some monster you know will kill you quickly and make a joke of it so your girl can get a laugh.
5. I like whitty guys, you have to be able to joke, be smart, quick whitted, thats what I like, guys like that can be mysterious and funny, but its ok if your not that type just be yourself dont try to be a fake, the smart girls especially gamer girls will see that and turn their head away before you know it.
6. romance is nice, being romnatic is sweet but dont over kill it, dont do it all the time or the girl wont appriciate the sweet moments you want to do for her, dont tell her you got a gift and since she was mean you took it back, makes you look like a loser, if your going to get her a gift surprise her, I like surprises and I am sure alot of other girls do to. It shows you care enough to make her want to smile.
I like a guy who is thoughtful and not only listens but responds. sometimes some girls talk to much and dont even bother asking about the guys thoughts, if the girl your interested in talks to much I say tell her honest but in a polite way that you dont always want to talk about her, or try to change the subject by talking about yourself and making her listen, it should go both ways.
anyways maybe this will help you in your book. good luck =] I thought about making a book like this myself one day, I also want to be a writer, maybe from another writers view this information will help you.
Wifey
10-27-2008, 11:49 AM
Yes you read that correctly. :mvshakefist::mvshakefist:
:o
OMG CRAZY!!!! im glad she's ur EX!!! WTF?!?!!? what kind of girl would do that!? WOW...idk what to say! 2 guys?!?! omg lol it's not funny but im freakin speechless! you don't deserve that hun ur sweet (a smarta$$ but sweet) ur sarcastic humor makes us laugh and u don't need someone like that in ur life! good thing you found out about that before it got REALLY serious and i'm sorry but Aloma is right...she's a hoe bag!!!!!
CrazyLSU
10-27-2008, 01:13 PM
Yeah i agree that she is and was a hoe bag!!! I am also thankful for the time i had with her. Before i met her I was really really really really shy. I rarely spoke to anybody except very close friends. She took the time to basically get me used to talking to people. Since then I almost never shut up :p . I still have my times where i am reserved but yeah nothing like i used to be. She is the one that introduced me into the street racing scene down here and basically allowed me to pay all my bills with that for the past 4 years. And thanks to Pucker up i quit that at the perfect time before i got myself seriously injured or killed. I would love to meet a girl that would open me up like my ex did. It would be great to have someone to push me and not let me settle for things. Even though what she did was screwed up/Freaky as hell. I am still glad that I went through it cause without that I dont know where i would be today.
I think all somewhat nerdy guys like a girl who will show them a different side of life as well. I think poptart's perspective is good - albeit a bit ambiguous ;) It doesn't give guys much direction haha.
CrazyLSU
10-27-2008, 01:37 PM
Who you calling nerdy rip!!!!!!?
Wifey
10-27-2008, 01:52 PM
Who you calling nerdy rip!!!!!!?
LMAO!!! hahahaha that made me laugh :)
CrazyLSU
10-27-2008, 01:57 PM
I am happy to be of service :p
speaking form personal experience my boy, all personal experience
you're a nerd too admit it
CrazyLSU
10-27-2008, 02:42 PM
nope i am THE nerd. I got you all beat!!
But back on track
girls are far too indecisive (and often hypocritical in what they want)
not gonna lie
CrazyLSU
10-27-2008, 02:54 PM
But back on track
girls are far too indecisive
not gonna lie
I second, third and fourth that!!!
Poptart
10-27-2008, 03:16 PM
I think all somewhat nerdy guys like a girl who will show them a different side of life as well. I think poptart's perspective is good - albeit a bit ambiguous ;) It doesn't give guys much direction haha.
LOL basically in a small version, dont be wimpy and desperate ( being a smart ass is sexy ) I find it so fun that I can **** talk to a guy and he can talk smack back, challenges are fun and this is why I also love to game! hahah :mvclap:
:mvcelebration: being nerdy and geeky is awesome, heck I think if anyone is posting here has to be a little geeky!
Crazy I know how you feel somewhat, I mean never caught him doing extreamly bad stuff like that but I found out about stuff he did that i wasnt so happy with. He was very much so into street racing, he riced out his car lol and I loved the thrill of it. the relationship helped me become a better and more open person aswell. I am sure you will find a female that will open you up and bring excitment to your life that you are looking for. sometimes its good to just let things happen and before you know it the person pops out of no where and says "here I am!"
CrazyLSU
10-27-2008, 03:28 PM
LOL basically in a small version, dont be wimpy and desperate ( being a smart ass is sexy ) I find it so fun that I can **** talk to a guy and he can talk smack back, challenges are fun and this is why I also love to game! hahah :mvclap:
:mvcelebration: being nerdy and geeky is awesome, heck I think if anyone is posting here has to be a little geeky!
Crazy I know how you feel somewhat, I mean never caught him doing extreamly bad stuff like that but I found out about stuff he did that i wasnt so happy with. He was very much so into street racing, he riced out his car lol and I loved the thrill of it. the relationship helped me become a better and more open person aswell. I am sure you will find a female that will open you up and bring excitment to your life that you are looking for. sometimes its good to just let things happen and before you know it the person pops out of no where and says "here I am!"
I never riced out a car. I am more of a Truck guy :p I drove a guys Z06 Corvette for him and the "money bag group" placed bets off of who would win. Usually there were like 4-5 cars and we would do a Point to point race. Usually about 100 miles long. First there wins. I would get a set amount if I won. Usually something like 3-5k. I think in the past 4 years i totaled over 150k in winnings. I still remember my last run. A girl wanted to ride so i let her and well at the end of that i said i would never do that again cause she screamed her head off for the entire 100 miles!!! I dont think she ever thought she would hit 170mph :p
O my little disclaimer... DONT TRY THIS AT HOME!!!!!!
the guy that took my spot after i stopped racing ended up upside down in a tree and in the hospital for almost a month!!
Hmm....idk i could never see myself in that scene, though if my PGR skills are at all indictive, Crazy knows i'd be whoppin everyone's ass ;)
And people tell me to stop being a smart ass - apparently i should ignore them!
Hmm....idk i could never see myself in that scene, though if my PGR skills are at all indictive, Crazy knows i'd be whoppin everyone's ass ;)
And people tell me to stop being a smart ass - apparently i should ignore them!
CrazyLSU
10-27-2008, 03:39 PM
Hmm....idk i could never see myself in that scene, though if my PGR skills are at all indictive, Crazy knows i'd be whoppin everyone's ass ;)
And people tell me to stop being a smart ass - apparently i should ignore them!
Dude i would love to see that in real life!!!! That would be one hell of a race though i wont do it on city streets anymore. Too gun shy now. That rush i got from that was almost better then sex! ALMOST ;)
Wifey
10-27-2008, 03:43 PM
Hmm....idk i could never see myself in that scene, though if my PGR skills are at all indictive, Crazy knows i'd be whoppin everyone's ass ;)
And people tell me to stop being a smart ass - apparently i should ignore them!
OHHHH DOUBLE POST!!!
so Rip isn't perfect??? wow...
lol:mvgiggle:
CrazyLSU
10-27-2008, 03:50 PM
OHHHH DOUBLE POST!!!
so Rip isn't perfect??? wow...
lol:mvgiggle:
wow you are just figuring that out? WOWOWOWOWOWOW :mvconfused::mvconfused:
Wifey
10-27-2008, 03:51 PM
wow you are just figuring that out? WOWOWOWOWOWOW :mvconfused::mvconfused:
jerk!
lol j/k
it was just a joke about Rip :)
CrazyLSU
10-27-2008, 03:52 PM
jerk!
lol j/k
it was just a joke about Rip :)
No i am not a jerk remember
I AM A SMARTASS!!!
Equinox Jr H2O
10-27-2008, 03:55 PM
Yeah racing does do a number on you. I remember when my dad used to race and let me ride shotgun. It was like one of those spinning rides when your head shoots back for the start of it. But once you get going you actually find it fun. Or scary... depending on who's driving.
Whenever he went fast I always looked at the speedometer and in my head was like oh ****. But then I'd take a look at the driver and was okay again.
Yeah, those were the days.
PMS Aloma
10-27-2008, 05:08 PM
Hmmm... back on track people!!! Sheesh!!!
My book's about girls and guys - not racing! SHEESH!!
*cries in corner because everyone forgot about her*
CrazyLSU
10-27-2008, 05:11 PM
It was on track. I talked about racing when i was talking about my ex! Ok peeps no more racing talk :( ok back to women :( :( O news flash... guys are so easily distracted ;)
http://images.musclemustangfastfords.com/events/0610mmfp_04z+cajun_homecoming+top_ten_reasons_raci ng_is_better_than_sex.jpg
Hmmm distraction ;)
Dude i would love to see that in real life!!!! That would be one hell of a race though i wont do it on city streets anymore. Too gun shy now. That rush i got from that was almost better then sex! ALMOST ;)
Ya, ditto. I'm also a pretty agressive driver which wouldn't work too well IRL (corners? isn't that what you're supposed to use other cars to help you with?)
Aloma, i think we have just discovered that driving cars are better then trying to figure out how to handle a girl. (I'll be nice and avoid the reliability joke)
CrazyLSU
10-27-2008, 08:18 PM
ya, ditto. I'm also a pretty agressive driver which wouldn't work too well irl (corners? Isn't that what you're supposed to use other cars to help you with?)
aloma, i think we have just discovered that driving cars are better then trying to figure out how to handle a girl. (i'll be nice and avoid the reliability joke)
lmfao!!!!! Burnnnnn
PMS Aloma
10-27-2008, 10:12 PM
Rip, I dunno about better... maybe easier haha
NOW - BACK TO MY RESEARCH!!!!
CrazyLSU
10-27-2008, 10:14 PM
Hell of a lot easier then figuring out a girl!!!
Hell of a lot easier then figuring out a girl!!!
well....anything is easier when comparing to the impossible.....
H2O Hamlet
10-28-2008, 12:44 AM
Hmm...
Well I guess I'll just go off how I act in accordance of my ideology of "what women want."
First Off... you need to break this off into different sections.
GOOD GIRLS- The kind Guys wan to Marry, the kind of Girls Hamlet dates
The biggest thing is Trust. Girls want someone they can trust to be honest with them, someone they can trust to not cheat on them, someone they can trust to come riding up to their window clad in shining armour and a white horse. Trust is essential to all relationships, and without it there will always be arguments. Personally, when I make a promise I keep it, even if it puts me into a bind. I said it, and so I'll do it. If I know I can't, I won't promise. Trust to be honest, not to lie intentionally. If I don't know, I won't say anything- no use starting rumors. The only time I lie is purposely for effects, such as "no we're not going to Ruth's Chris...(smile)" Then after taking a weird route show up at Ruth's Chris. Trust to call you back when you're in need, and not blow you off.
That's enough with Trust, can't really put words to that- it's far too important a necessity to explain.
Respect. Girls want you to respect them; mind, body, and soul. They want you to respect their opinions and values. You may not have to agree with them, but respect them. Respect that they are ladies, and "No" means... No. Respect that they too are human, they have feelings, and they have rights. This isn't the 1800's- women have just as much say as men do, and often times more knowledgeable.
Women want to be Loved. At the same time... Men also want to be loved. But this is about females. Women want to be loved, they want to know there is someone waiting for them, someone thinking about them, someone loving them in return. There are simple ways of showing this love. Remember dates or fond memories, opening doors, holding their hand and giving them a hug when they need someone, being a shoulder they can lean on, hugging them just because!, not just saying, but MEANING the words "I love you," asking them how their days went, etc. Yes... today women are independent- but I personally think these things still hold important values. I'm old fashion; so I always allow ladies to go first, always open doors, always pay, etc.
Women want you to understand circumstances and situations. Women definitely want someone that can be a home guy and snuggle up in front of a fire or a movie. But they also want someone that will be spontaneous and FUN when out and about. Randomness and Spontaneous is key- doing things "just because." Being someone they can brag about to their friends, yet respectful enough to present to her parents.
If it got serious... and kids were involved. Again we have the same as above. Women want to trust men with the ability to raise children. They want a man that can be a responsible father, yet a fun father. Someone who can be reliable to pick up the kids, and someone who is up for going to Disneyland or playing catch/watching ballet. I've often heard the phrase, "Women want a guy they can picture driving a Mini-Van..." kind of goes with the whole fatherly figure. To be honest, I'll be picking up my kids in either a Denali, or a Sports Car (Porsche, Ferrari, Lamborghini, or a Bentley). I already own a Denali and a Carrera, so I'm set for now. But seriously... me and mini-van's don't go well together.
Women want a guy that is OPEN to her opinions and not self-centered. Granted, don't be too open and agree, a little arguing is healthy and can be at times fun. But be open to her opinion and views. If she wants to go to see a chick-flick, then maybe next week you can see that action movie. To be honest, I love Chick-Flick's so I've never had that issue. But women want a guy that has his OWN opinion and his own input, but also open to discussion about her options.
BAD GIRLS- Girls that guys will just use for fun, or a time period when guys are young, dumb, and experimenting.
Women want someone that is controlling, someone that will give them sex, someone that knows how to PARTY!, someone that is up for drinking and at times smoking, someone that is wreckless and most of the time unintelligent, someone that may be really good looking, or someone that is really unattractive. Being athletic and a Football Player helps. Having a lot of money to blow on them also helps.
But... in the end Bad Girls will become Good girls overtime. They will realize after countless heart breaks that they deserve much more, which is true, or they will mature and get over the phase. Usually Bad Girls are younger girls, usually before 25. Some girls start out Good Girls- but in the end Both Good and Bad Girls become Good Girls.
There are a ton of things I haven't touched base on. But I have some research papers to write. I hate and love these forums. I hate it because I love it so much, it makes me procrastinate haha.
Hope I was able to help somewhat with your book, and best of luck!
EDIT: Oh.. and for purposes of this forum only- women want a guy that is a gamer :) Skill may or may not be a necessity, but they would want someone that is fun to play with and has a competitive yet friendly nature. Winning isn't always everything, and the company is key.
PMS Aloma
10-28-2008, 10:26 PM
Hmm... interesting
Poptart
10-29-2008, 09:28 PM
I never riced out a car. I am more of a Truck guy :p I drove a guys Z06 Corvette for him and the "money bag group" placed bets off of who would win. Usually there were like 4-5 cars and we would do a Point to point race. Usually about 100 miles long. First there wins. I would get a set amount if I won. Usually something like 3-5k. I think in the past 4 years i totaled over 150k in winnings. I still remember my last run. A girl wanted to ride so i let her and well at the end of that i said i would never do that again cause she screamed her head off for the entire 100 miles!!! I dont think she ever thought she would hit 170mph :p
O my little disclaimer... DONT TRY THIS AT HOME!!!!!!
the guy that took my spot after i stopped racing ended up upside down in a tree and in the hospital for almost a month!!
OMG what did you do with all that money LOL that must have been exciting. did the girl know you were going to go fast? why scream when you know someone is going to drive fast that is lame.
:mvshakefist: craziest thing I ever done was drive in the desert, made a bunch of donuts and then "pewwww" the tire popped o.O it wasnt my car nor do I have a drivers lisence so that kind of sucked but... thank gawd their is a thing called fix nflat hahaha! The only time I raced was on a dirt bike when I was like 13, racing a group of guys and I always had this ego where I felt like I had to one up a guy just to prove that I can. we were racing down a dirt road and a big mudd pile was coming up, they started to slow down and I did as well, some crashed and some of us slided threw it, which I did, mudd was all over me I think my mom yelled at me for it.
-got off topic- uh..there was a point to my story~!!!
I like it when a guy can challenge me and I can challenge him ^___^ in anything and everything!
Maxman
10-31-2008, 01:24 AM
“We barely have time to react in this world, let alone rehearse, and I don't think that I'm better than you but I don't think that I'm worse. Women learn to be women, and men learn to be men, and I don't blame it all on you, but I don't want to be you” Ani Difranco (American Singer, Song Writer and Guitarist. b.1970)
Mary Jane PMS
11-02-2008, 01:03 PM
I want Jake. My wonderful husband. :D
But really... okay. Here I go.
This girl wants her man to:
*make me laugh
*come to kiss me when I walk into the room
*tell me how much he loves me and how beautiful I am
*care about real issues like the environment and our future
*play games with me
*help me make breakfast and dinner
*make me smile when I am feeling down
*buy me flowers for no reason
*play with my hair
*and most importantly tell me what he wants and needs from me for him to be happy as well
Stiletto
11-03-2008, 01:18 PM
I'd like a guy who wouldn't give me a dutch oven. They're not funny.
CrazyLSU
11-04-2008, 01:41 PM
Why not. omg i love cooking in those when i do get a chance to actually cook